i can't even believe this...
my boyfriend of almost 4 years and I broke up, and it hasn't even been a month. now all of a sudden he's suddenly friends again with a girl who he used to like right before he asked me out. oh and here's the best part: she's newly single too. great. I can only imagine what will happen with two people who are rebounding, and used to like each other
seriously?! after almost 4 years of my life this is what happens?
guys, why? why does this happen?
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:( so much more am I seeing instances of this pop up. This happened to me not 2 months ago. Granted she and I were together for only a year and a half compared to your 4 years, but it hurts no less. As it turns out the DAY after she broke up with me, she was back to trying to get this guy she's been flirting with for four years to sleep with her. And of course she talked him into it, and she even had the nerve to tell me this among all her new dates(4 at a time, seriously, unbelievable).
It's not just a guy thing, it's a type of person thing. There are more guys that can distance themselves easily, but girls can too. It has to do with what his view of the relationship was that defines how he reacts to the aftermath of the breakup. Did you break up with him or he break up with you?
Whatever the case may be, it freaking hurts nonetheless to hear about what an ex does with someone that is not you. Your body literally has become biologically and mentally used to him being in your life and when it realizes that what it has become used to isn't there anymore, you will go through withdrawl and intense mental anguish.
I think the best thing for you to do is to build up the anger and focus on his faults to cushion your recovery and focus on yourself. Remind yourself that he is most likely rebounding and that you deserve so much better. Spoil yourself, nurse yourself back to happiness, and go find that guy out there just itching to make you happy!0