So I haven't had a girlfriend in almost 5 years. Some of the factors include lack of interest, work, and distractions.. I've dated a few times but nothing really came of any of them..
I know I've been picky so I've really been trying to change that.. my question here is how did you guys/girls "get" girlfriends/boyfriends?
Dating hasn't ever been one of my proficiencies.. while everyone was dating/partying in school I was being a nerd. Now I guess things have changed and I attract much more girls.. I just am not able to read people enough to follow up with asking girls out.. I'm very good at making friends but nothing more.. Beyond "how do you get a gf?" I'm not even sure what exactly I'm asking for.. being that there's too many details/explanations/examples that come to mind..
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It just comes naturally, I suppose. I see someone who catches my eye and usually looks attract me first. But then I try to get to know the person better and...if there's a spark, then I know.
Usually it's the boys who ask me out first though.
It's funny because...I'm not the kind of person who falls in love easily.
I look at personality as well, and until I find someone who has both, I don't date.
And well, I just know it, I can feel it if I feel deep attraction for someone.
And not just lust but like actual affection.
Boys ask me out because of how I look. I look for boys who actually get to know me before dating. Then I know that they're not going to use me for pleasure and just dump me the next week. Some of my best friends, who are male, have fallen in love with me. But I haven't felt attraction for them that way. I've been asked out numerous times but I usually end up declining.
I don't know. I guess it's as you said. Someone asks you out, if they've got some kind of charm, then you agree. You're not being picky at all. Giving someone a chance is one thing, but after the date, if you really don't feel anything, then it's best to be honest and just let them know that it got you nowhere. I think that you only realize you're in love after some time, it doesn't come right away. Blind dates, in my opinion, are nothing. I'd only accept if I actually felt some sort of attraction to the guy.
Just keep looking. Eventually, I'm sure, you'll find someone who attracts you, like, you'll feel the real kind of love, and you'll tell yourself, "Yes, this is the one I want!". Dating left and right is just stupid. Crushes are nothing, they come and go and it's just a passage. Find the one you want, the real one, then try to win them over.
Sometimes it takes time. You might go through different relationships and even breakups but you'll find someone that you feel real emotion for in the end.
Good luck and I hope I wasn't too confusing. :)0
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