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The BEST way to get good with women is three simple steps.
1) Spend every waking moment building your social skills.
That's the number 1 most attractive thing about a man... it's not his looks or his money. It's his social skills. A man who's good with people will ALSO be good with women. It's really that simple.
When a dude is great at chatting with strangers he'll look relaxed, he'll seem popular, and he'll naturally (overtime) learn to read the body language of others.
So do this: talk to EVERYONE. Standing in line at the store, ordering a pizza, jogging on the beach, renting videos, waiting for class, etc. If you're shy then start with small talk, "Hey, I missed the news last night, do you have any idea what's going on in New York? I heard something about a bomb?"
Do this everyday, forever. Believe me, this is the ONE thing EVERY pickup artist does. It helps us calibrate how to tell stories, how to meet strangers, and how to be social.
2) Once you've figured out how to talk to everyone (this will include that hot chick with the amazing rack) then you're ready for step 2.
Most men, when they get nervous, want to follow.. not lead. And women notice this. When you start to lead you will automatically stand out from all other guy's she's met that week.
What does LEADING look like?
It means you start a conversation. Simple. Easy. That's it. You approach her. You ask her stuff. You laugh at her lame jokes. You say, "You know what? You're not what I expected you'd be like when I first came over here to say hi. I'll tell you what. There's this new dessert place downtown I keep hearing about... wanna meet me there Tuesday after school/work to try their chocolate fondue? Then I can find out if you're as awesome as you seem."
Lead. Most guys will wait for the "right signal" because they're too scared to lead. Instead it's better to approach, setup a coffee date, then move on. Simple. If she's not interested then it's her loss.
3) Escalate. The reason most guys never get more then a first date.
Escalation is like leading. It's your job to continuously, but slowly, escalate the intimacy of the relationship. You MUST touch her. You MUST hold her hand. You MUST hug her and kiss her.
Once the first kiss is out of the way you're golden. Everything else opens up after that.
Do these three things and you'll ALWAYS have options thanks to all the girls who find you attractive, cute, fun, and awesome.
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