And when/if they decide to come back? I know me, the second they start talking to me again I'm gonna talk right back. I was really into this guy and I'm throughly disappointed -- he did mention that he doesn't really do relationships, but he kept asking to see me, regularly for almost 3 months. Then suddenly over the last two weeks, he hardly acknowledges me anymore. I mean, I did know what I was getting myself into, and I even told him that if he didn't want to start anything then thats okay.
You have to learn lessons. If you keep on walking into a wall you can't blame the wall. Perhaps the first time, but not the second and third and fourth.If someone proves to be a flake then they are likely gone from my life. By the time they come back I will have lost all interest anyway. I move forward, I don't move backwards.
Valid point. Thank you!
so I can start tindering again guilt free?
In that case you should have at least one text to officially end things between you two. If you dont, you SO might end up accusing you of cheating, and if you tell him/her about signs, he/she will just say that you are making stuff up to hide your cheating.Just one short text , so that in future it is not a problem for you.
i might also point out that we work together... so yah it makes it that much more harder. I knew when this started that career always comes first no matter what. So professionalism at work at all times!
I feel in a way betrayed as well.
if you guys work together, then obviously he could come over to you. Just wait for 2-3 weeks, if he does not approach you, start talking to your girlfriends about some random hot guy. give it a week, even after that if he does nothing, then you can assume yourself to be over. And if he comes also you can just say, i thought we were done , ..
Are you gonna bother confronting him?
no, i'm not gonna do that. I will just slowly withdraw myself from the situation. maybe in the future I will become friends
I'm a little bummed about it, not gonna lie. I was really into him, and was thrilled when we had started this...*fling*, but yah I guess it's for the best to just move on.
Yeah, I was trying to cheer you up a little. I get being bummed, been there but you don't want to chase anyone that doesn't want to you.
*Downloads tinder to boost my ego* lol
what would you do if they started talking to you again, or start confronting you?
I wouldn't reply. I don't like the whole back and forth games.
So would you confront them?
yes i would.
I mean, I feel like I should, but at the same time I've been trying to keep things going with him and I'm getting nothing. So why might i bother?
So you don't have to feel guilty meeting other guys or whatever. I don't know how you can be in that awkward position. You're wasting your time on someone who seems to not care
It's awkward for many many reasons. Further more, I wish I had your confidence to just be able to do that. It's hard, no matter what, ending any sort of "relationship" is always uncomfortable. I've been thinking on this for about 2 weeks now.
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