I find that it takes a long time for me to feel comfortable with anyone - let alone someone I might consider dating. Normally, I will wait until we are (fairly good) friends because I want to know what I am getting myself into. This can take anywhere from 3 to 6 months of getting to know them. Obviously this is flexible, but that is just what I find myself doing, consciously or not. Both of my best friends starting dating their current bf/gf first and asked questions later. I get where they are coming from but I feel like being compatible on a friend level is more important - then if we are dating I can explore a whole new side of them. I feel like I'm too old fashioned this way, or at least I am moving at a snails pace. Can anyone give me some input on how they go about dating (in a general sense) because what I have been doing a) has not been working and b) needs to be rethought.