I do feel pressure to do certain things that society tells me i'm supposed to be doing
Ye it's a very difficult thing to answer. You sound very self critical which can be a blessing and a curse. Best thing is to find something you enjoy doing and use it as a means to distract you from the harsher things. You'll have to learn to be more selfish, and by that I mean putting your own feelings first.
Just try and find some good friends
The people I hang with now want to go out get drunk and smoke weed and i'm not into that
Ye you'll have to find some people that you like hanging out with. It will change a lot when you leave school. I have a completely different set of friends from when I was your age. Just try not to worry about it too much, it will come it just takes a long time. Most people aren't very nice so it takes a lot of filtering through to find the right ones.
What is the difference between finding friends in high school and finding friends in college?
I never went to college/university, I joined the military. So I can't tell you about it personally but I've had a lot of friends that have been. Your studies will be a lot more concentrated on a smaller group of subjects or courses. Which basically means you'd only really be socialising with people who are interested in the same studies as you. Plus people will have come from various different cities, towns etc.. It won't be just people who grew up in the same environment as you.
Yeah I also worry about dating going forward
Dating is a whole different thing. Basically what I'd say with that is don't try too hard to please the other person because you think it's the right thing to do, if what you're doing dosent make you happy. It's a two way thing. It's not your job to tailor yourself to fit another person. Plus being in a relationship constricts if you have a lot of personal interests. So you have to decide if you want to compromise to be with someone. Or find someone who shares imilar hobbies/interests
Yeah for me I don't know how to put myself out there
It's gonna sound weird but basically just don't try to hard and be friendly. Hang out spend time with people. If you don't like them find someone else. A good way of meeting is through social groups. So like if someone in your friends circle has a girlfriend or boyfriend that they bring along. Maybe that person has a complete different set of friends with someone that you could date. They sort of arrange for you guys to hang out as a group. That way you can just hang out without the pressure of actually dating someone. Then you have time to make your mind up if you want to make a move. Or get their friend to help you out a bit.
I don't see my friends on the weekends. I'm convinced this won't happen till College.
I'm 17 and haven't done that
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