Assuming the guy puts himself out there, is it possible?
Sure, you can still fail if you just get everything wrong time after time and don't learn and adapt. Some people do die alone, it's a fact of life.
Do you think everyone has plenty of opportunities throughout life though?
Not necessarily, no. The law of averages would suggest that some would come your way but not if you lock yourself in your house every day and never come out. To maximise the number of opportunities you have to make opportunities come your way. Sitting back and doing nothing increases the chance of nothing ever happening.
What if he has a lot of social hobbies and goes to a lot of social situations even if it's on his own.
He still has to make the effort to interact with girls if he wants to form relationships. He needs to talk to girls and he needs to be bold enough to flirt with girls. He should be honest about his level of interest rather than pretending to be just a friend when he wants more. If he does these things then he increases his chances of something happening for him.
What if he talks to plenty of girls and flirts a little too.
Then he is doing the right things and each experience should help him to develop the best strategy. It might take some time but as long as he learns and adapts the he has every chance to find a girl.
What if he's not developing and improving anyway?
And at the end, did it matter than you haven't had any experience until you were 24?
@siuxoes i honestly think that i still suffer from a lack of experience, cause i´m still quite insecure as to how to behave if i like the girl xD i don´t know if dating earlier and more often would have helped with that. probably... but what can you do :D
@genericname85 at the end of the day, you can't do nothing about the past. You probably will get better by practicing. At least, I see this way.
@siuxoes the problem i see is that even if i had started earlier, my chances of actually liking the girl seem quite low xD and the chances of her liking me back even lower than that so i don´t know if it would have even done anything.
@genericname85 It is pretty sad that you think like this, I'm sorry for you mate. I hope you're okey today
@siuxoes it´s fine :D i don´t like "dating" anyway. i kind of like it more to first just be genuine friends and then trying to transition into more from that.
@genericname85 I am into that too, I prefer to have a transition from friends to something more. But sometimes I don't do it because I think it will fuck up the friendship, you know?
@siuxoes yeah if you fall for them hard then there´s no help for that friendship XD but such is life, i guess. you can genuinely stay friends though, if you are able to be interested into another girl.
Dating friends or in social circles is just messy
@genericname85 , yes you're right.
yeah it is but potentially it can be really nice... but only if it works out.
And there's a small chance it will work out.
exactly xD so i kind of think is worth it. and the chances are way better than with some random girl you try to date.
But there's more random girls than social circle girls. And there's less competition.
yeah that´s kind of true but that brings me to the biggest issue i have with dating: how do i even choose? i mean many girls are hot and i can´t possibly ask all of them out so how does one cope with the many options? XD
You ask all of them out. Because most will reject you. I think the average statistic is that 1 in 10 will reject you. So you maximise your chances by asking them all out.
yeah dude i know the drill xD but i can´t ask "all" of them out, cause some will notice. i mean you can ask all of them on dating sites but on dating sites only 1 in 1000 will even respond xD
But at least you're constantly learning and meeting new women too. In social circle, you could be meeting very few and obsessing over the same girls for months.
i mean if the girls see how i asked out one girl, get rejected and then ask the next girl, they will think i´m just randomly doing it with no good intentions.
yeah i noticed that xD when the one girl in the circle became single again, guys were just flooding her like vultures. so awkward.
At the end of the day we are just animals
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