Was it sarcastic?
Man you are getting ripped apart here but ya It just becomes a thing like a hobby or commend interest with a friend then real flirting.
No. Not sarcastic
Yes. Everybody is like "You're such a horrible person" , "You're a slut", "You don't have self respect.", etc. But I am just 19 , I am allowed to have in this age.
I got so much backlash for asking this. so I have to ask. was that sarcastic?
No I'm serious, their relationship is not your responsebillty. If they're not married with kids n stuff you won't be really "homewrecking" . It's oke
They are not. We are just in college.
So go ahead, no problem
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1. You don't know me so you don't have any right to pass judgement on that. .2. He is not married. We are both adults. we are not going on dates or sleeping with eachother. We have good chemistry. So we are flirty towards each other. We like texting each other for attention and company. Not claiming to do the most noble job in the world. But we have our boundaries. We haven't ever held hands. So don't be so quick to judge.
1. People have a right to judge whoever and however they want, their personal thoughts and words are theirs. 2. YOU ASKED FOR JUDGEMENT. YOU LITERALLY ASKED.3. It's still wrong, and most are saying that. If you wouldn't accept people's answers, why even ask?
The point of the numbering was that he asked me two questions. I don't understand why you're replying to this. About the second point that you have made , that what I tried to explain in your comment. For fun. And I wanted to see the general notion.Just like slut shaming and judging people is okay in your little set of rules, flirting is okay in mine.
Judgements are made by everyone in every second of time, so yes humans are allowed to judge. Slut shaming isn't "okay in my rules" I have no rules. I'm just not afraid to do it. I'm not a nice person. However I'm honest, all I'll say that flirting with another girls boyfriend is messed up.
I am not a nice person either. I don't wanna be. He did not even tell me he has girlfriend when we started speaking. I found out and asked him myself. He is probably doing it with 10 other people. What is the big deal?
If you don't want to be judged, don't put yourself out on the internet. Literally the worst fucking place you could throw up a blurb about your life and then ask for opinions.If he's not married or in a serious relationship, and or just dating around, then no flirting is not a big deal and is normal in this case. But then again what do you care? You already stated you're not a nice person and a slut, so now as far as im concerned he could be a closet rapist, and you're about to get what's coming to you. So flirt on.
The rant about getting judging and putting your life on the internet. I totally get it. But I hope you're not trying to saying somebody deserves to be raped because they are not a nice person and a slut. Because then you're messed up.
I am pretty sure he is.
i hope he is because most of the time if a guy is in a relationship , he might be looking for some casual "no strings attached sex" instead of "casual flirting" and most women know this that's why they flirt with those guys aka just for some attention from a guy who has another girl.
But I don't want to have sex with him.
"But I don't want to have sex with him"i know you are just seeking his attention ( i live with many of your type of girls on a daily basis). i am not judging you in anyway but wouldn't you feel more fulfilled by flirting with a single guy?
Of course. But I don't have feelings for anybody at the moment.
not a problem but just don't do it with guys in a relationship. just think what if your commited boyfriend does this and has sex with some other girl after "casually flirting" with her? won't you be mad?
If they have sex, yes. But I really don't want anything from him. I might even stop talking to him after a few days.
well the choice is yours. my suggestion is just that you don't build him up to shoot him down later (if you really don't like to have sex with him)
I am asking for fun.
I can ask whatever I want. Who am I hurting?
The girl who's in that relationship.
By asking this question?
No, by flirting with some girls boyfriend. You know exactly what I mean, don't obfuscate.
okay. Casually flirting is not equal sleeping with someone. We don't go on dates or sleep together behind her back. We just like each other's company and are flirty toward each other. We are both consenting adults.
Nobody said that. Don't twist my words. That's still wrong, you asked.
I am sorry. I just don't equate flirting with cheating.
Then you just have a different set of morals I guess. Hopefully his girlfriend agrees with you or you're in for some drama
I figured this post would make me lose hope in people, but it's done the opposite <3
I wouldn't judge even if the roles were reversed.
Genders reversed , a guy definitely wouldn't be okay with other guys flirting with his girl and we all know that. And its the same here.
killed? For casual flirting?
He's taken, don't go fingering his ass. That's for his girl like damn. You're both nasty.
I am not trying to get him.
Definitely not trying to finger his ass.
Then don't flirt.
I will. he likes it too. He started it , anyway.
Well that's where casual flirting will take you, your finger in his ass. It's the sad truth.
It's sad that , that's where all your casual flirting ends.
I don't need to casually flirt, I'm married.
Aren't you 18?
And married... yes... You mad?
how can somebody be married at 18? And you're calling me mad?
I'm calling you thirsty. Pip pip cheerio.
18 isn't even the legal age for marriage in my country. 😂😂😂But have a great married life.pip pip cheerio.
Does it always have to mean something?
If the guy flirts back and he usually doesn't, it means he like you
He is one who started with the flirting.
Then he likes you for sure, just get into it
Got your point. But I don't think he likes me in that way which would make me the other woman.
he's flirting with you, he obviously likes you somewhat.. like i said, he's just in a poor relationship (most likely), and is looking for attention elsewhere). it reinforces negative behavior when you reply to him.. don't do it
But how is it my responsibility to protect someone else's relationship?
I t isn't yours but you know he has so he is out of reach
okay. I did this because I wanted to see what is the general notion about it. It is okay you don't approve of what I am doing. I respect that. But slut shaming is not okay. You want to sleep with women 15 year older to you, you say. It is frowned upon by many too. Does that make you slut?
I apologise for the slut-shaming, but to answer your question I guess I am a slut. But I want to just try it and get these strange feelings dealt with. Its one of those things I will regret for the rest of my life if I just keep them hidden. (I am weird)
Yeah. People tend to be gentle on themselves. Make excuses for themselves. Justifying themselves. After all, it so fulfilling moral policing other.
I'll gladly slut shame both men and women! How ironic that you literally just made excuses for acting like a bad person, lmao.
Yes. Never for once I claimed to be a good person. Nobody is. I flirt. You slut shame. He wants to sleep with 15 year older women and ruin his life.
I think thats stretching the imagination, How could an older more mature woman do any worse than a girl my age.
May be she wouldn't. Just like you frown upon my decision , I frown upon yours. There's no good or bad.
You miss it?
I don't recall having sex with you dear.
How would you? I wasn't even born when you were in your prime. It was someone else for sure.
One sounds better, and is an easy out.
Normal flirting- you are really attracted to this person. You people connect. Would want to know them more. you want to ask them out, Get into bed with them. And probably want a relationship with them to.Casual flirting- you want nothing of the above. You just like talking to the person. So you're flirty towards them for attention and company.
Well you have self respect.
Glad to hear that.. +_+