Personally I feel that when dating or in a relationship both parties parties should be essentially going overboard to make the other person happy. Because you truly care for the other person without restrictions. Those restrictions could be like guys paying for dates because the guy always pays. Or girls cooking because girls always cook. It seems that people miss out on things or ruin relationships because they expect this or expect that. I'm not saying let yourself be used. Doing all you can for someone and them doing the bare minimum. But why not enjoy the person. You know love them now like it's all you have. Rather than expecting them to do specific things before you show them the actions of love that they expect you to show?