Yeah it can feel embarrassing, especially if the girl pays the whole bill. Feels like everyone watching thinks you're a cheap ass. Not hard to get over, but depends on the guy I guess.
@Levelthree hmm makes sense, but then again why should people care what strangers think of them? :-) but I definitely get why one might feel awkward in that case.
Many people care what strangers think of them. So many people are completely absorbed in image or try to be "trendy" to obnoxious levels. I care about it more than I should, but I don't make it obvious and I can let it go if a woman is seen paying for me.
@Levelthree true, it is quite sad really! Either you have to care, or you're the outsider and life will be more difficult for you... back in the days people always told the kids: don't worry about what others think of you, most important is that you make something out of yourself... i guess this somehow doesn't apply anymore to modern society :-(
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cheaper but sex might be involved
Oh ok 👌
This is true ^^
that's funny and smart
good way to get your second date 😉
Why hide your identity tho
@ItsAMeWeirdoBars?Why do you care about my identity? You are anonymous too, by the way; I don't see your name, address or phone number anywhere.
Lol, I mean your entire profile. I can't even communicate with you on pm. You only get he bars joke if you watch dope island. But there are women that want to pay but there are men that don't want them to pay. My mom keeps trying to pay the bills, food bills, and even at restaurants but her boyfriend won't let her. Did you ever think of that. If you don't like it and you want women to pay. How about you tell her to take you to a restaurant and pay. The only reason why some don't think that have to pay, if because you asked to take THEM on a date. Unless she buying a bunch of shit she doesn't really have to pay if she doesn't want too. Unless she offers you out next
@ItsAMeWeirdo So, please tell us all why the person who asks the other out has to pay. Who made that rule and why do you think it makes any sens at all? I'll tell you why... because women know god damned well that men are the ones who have to ask women out so of course they are also the ones who always have to pay, if someone us shallow enough to think that rule is fair. It's not, of course. If a woman gets asked out on a date, and the man took the risk of putting himself out there and risking rejection, the LEAST she can do is offer to pay her share. There will come a day in the not too distant future that that will be the way it always is, but women are of course very resistant to that change because it's one of the traditional gender roles that benefits women so they have no interest in changing it.
That's how people were raised and brought up. I have asked out a guy before and they all turned me down and that's what they usually do. You see the men in this comment section they was brought up that way it's the matter of tradition. Like how if you get married and it's traditional for the women to change her last name to the male. The guy paying for the food was a tradition invented to say a dude a can provide a family. So if this new generation want to stop the tradition which people are not, then they can do it.
We are not resistant to Change it's because they keep offering. Like women get free to clubs because people pay for this shit. The new generation can change it but you have to tell them that. Plus why are you at a restaurant buy some fucking pizza.
@ItsAMeWeirdo"We are not resistant to Change it's because they keep offering." No, the problem isn't men offering, it's women NOT offering. It's women who believe that the person who asks the other out should pay, like you said. The problem here is not men, it's women. Women need to stop expecting men to pay and start offering to pay. They say they do but most do not. EVery guy knows that from experience."The new generation can change it but you have to tell them that." Right, which is what I'm doing right here, right now.
Excalty I prefer for people not to pay for shit for me. Some reason guys 2 years older then me keep liking me and buy things for me. But I'm not asking them to too they just do it. It's a tradition problem and a generation problem that we can get rid of if you keep telling girl this and your kids that you bring up this. So keep spreading
@ItsAMeWeirdo But again, let's be clear here; the problem is not the guys offering to or insisting to pay. It is the girls who do not offer to pay. Regardless of whether he insists on paying, she should ALWAYS offer to pay. That is NOT happening today in most cases and THAT is the real problem here.Would you fault a guy for holding a door open for a woman, simply because it's tradition? Of course not. But in my experience far fewer women hold doors open for men, and THAT is a problem.So yeah, let's not lose sight of where is issue really lies, and it does NOT lie with men offer holding doors or offering to pay. It lies with women not doing the same.
Ok I get it yo, yo. I don't like dates anyway because I don't like being near a lot of people. So that paying thing wouldn't matter, ill order some pizza and play games. That restaurant thing is stupid anyways
@ItsAMeWeirdo I like pizza and playing games too, but it doesn't beat a restaurant with my date.
Well sometimes it does. :)
Restaurants are filled with with normal people, I don't like normal
It's better to be at home and to go for a movie but pay for your own ticket
I usually do anyways
@ItsAMeWeirdo Good one. :)
If it's the first date she is looking to ditch me.What do you mean? If she pays why would she be looking to ditch you? My last first date the girl payed and she said I'll pay "I'm the one that asked you out on this date".
@Brah63926 very classic scenario... she will pay so she doesn't feel obligated about anything. Most common reason a woman pays or "insists on it"
Well usually it was 50/50 in my last relationships. However the one that paid on first date drove 30 miles just to see me and she paid for date! I had no car at time it was in the shop so I walked to a bar few blocks down and she met me there. And she's the one that cheated on me. She was seeing another guy the whole time her and I were together one of her coworkers.
I should also add that I might be suspicious that it was some sort of trick, some women test guys by doing stuff like this. It's really fucked up.
They might think you're just trying to be nice.
@Westy616 Last I checked being nice is a good thing. Why do you take her wanting to pay usher being nice as a bad thing.
@MysteriousDarkness I don't take her that way, but I've heard lots of guys talking about it. I wasn't talking about myself. Maybe you should read to understand before you comment.
relax boys it's just an opinion no need to argue 😉
Its a nice gesture of a women to offer to clear the bills... shows that she is indenpendent and self sufficient... it deserves appriciation..
if you're doing it out of your own will without any hidden mockery intention,,, you sure looks good.
You're married. It's joint income. Doesn't matter in the case of married as it still all comes from the same pool of income...
@Paultripps He just knows that he better bloody pull out the goods later 😜😝😆
after all it's our💑 money 💵
@Paultripps it won't matter even if woman makes more money
@Brah63926 and I'm just saying that if I pay I'd better be getting lucky by the end of the night.
Who makes more is irrelevant as it's the same joint income. Who puts down their card when it comes from the same pot is irrelevant... and he'd better be getting lucky too!!!