I'm 26 years old and never had a boyfriend. At my age their are people that are married, getting engaged or having babies and I'm hating life at the moment and feel so lonely. It also doesn't help that I've never been in a relationship and I am inexperienced. I am average looking, I have a sweet personality and I would do anything for someone I love like family and friends. My only facial flaw is I have a big nose and I am considering rhinoplasty, if thats why I haven't had a boyfriend I don't know. My family says I have a heart of gold, so why don't I have a boyfriend? I do everything solo these days, I have a small circle of friends and that doesn't help because I feel even more lonely and plus I'm an only child too so naturally I am more reserved. Sometimes I feel like I'm never going to find someone.
Most Helpful Guy
Sorry but if your 26 and never had a boyfriend that is on you.
Either your requirements are way out of whack and you need to be more realistic, or your not going after men. You can't be one of these women that "oh, I am traditional and I won't make the first move" as almost all women seem to want to do. You need to go on the offensive. But with POF, Tinder, okCupid and all the other dating sites out there that are free to use, there is zero excuse for not having someone. Sure, it might not be the muscle bound stud (gross) that your looking for, but there are plenty of people out there.0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm 28 and I've dated a ton and had plenty of 'seeing someones' etc and short term (like 6 weeks) 'boyfriends' which just don't count but I've never had what I would call a long term relationship... unless u count that thing in my 18-21 thing where we never actually termed it a relationship so I don't think counts. So I'm like 'why can't I find someone?' too.
I also have a huge conk. I hate my nose in photos so much! But honestly I think we are our own worst critics and I doubt it affects my dating life any more than to the extent that it might bring my own self esteem down,
But yeah, both of these areas, like u, cause me insecurities. And I've lately started to ask myself if I'm just 'destined to be single'. I'm not worried about children because to me, risking your life and health for a hypothetical person is totally illogical so I don't need a man for that nonsense thankyou very much xD and if I ever want kids I can adopt anyway, plenty of women do that in their 40s even.
I think the problem is we are all brainwashed into thinking that if we don't do things that society expects us to do, we are somehow failing in life. Where as in actual fact, we don't stop to ask ourselves if its even what we really need? For me, I'd love a partner for the company aspect of things but I realise, I've come this far on my own, without anyone, and that's quite an accomplishment. One we should both be proud of. I won't spout stuff about how we should 'love ourselves before others can love us' tosh, I'm just pointing out that sometimes what we think we want isn't really what we want anyway, its what society tells us we should want. As for the stuff we do actually want, well sometimes its just not meant for us and we have to play the hand we are dealt as best we can...0