I'm 25 and am temporarily visiting my family in a suburb of NYC to which they just moved; and living at home before I head to law school in a few weeks. I'm really sexually frustrated, I am kinda isolated from friends in Manhattan, and its affecting my mood and life.
Can girls/guys give me any tips on finding a girl to date or hooking up? I don't mind dating a cool girl first but I have needs. I feel girls are flaky and, truly busy, in this area, so its hard to meet up even if I get a number at a bar. Maybe during the day is better? Also is it bad if I'm projecting sexuality? Not in a bad way, I've had sex a bunch of times but this is bad, lol. The thing is I have a ton of free time and I wish I could hang out with a girl during the day, as we have a big nice house, and so on.
I'm obsessing over a gorgeous girl I've known for a while . She has a serious Boyfriend though, and I'm not really contacting her, but, you know..
- Should I be aggressive in finding a girl for an immediate hookup (how)Vote A
- Should I try and carefully find a girl to date (and how?Vote B
- Should I just relieve the need (by myself) with visuals, hah?Vote C
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Wow. We are *utterly* in the same boat. I feel your pain. I moved back home from overseas in a big city at the beginning of the year and the life I live at the moment is pretty isolated too (I live in a small town now and most of my high school friends are back in unis around the world so I only see them sometimes). You know, inaction is the worst thing you can do. You need to keep really busy doing lots of things. I got a job to supplement my studies and spend lost of time working out in the gym, I run errands for my parents, I've tried to get out to meet local people my own age - there's not many of us because the population here is er, ageing, but nevermind. Also I remind myself that it isn't forever - for me its only a yar and for you even less - two weeks. As far as sex goes, where I live there really isn't anyone desirable which is, at times horrible, lonely and terribly,terribly "frustrating", if you know what I mean. There's a guy from my past whom I've developed a bit of an obsession on too who also has a boyfriend as well but I know that if I email him I'm going to regret it the second that I press "send". (but he is gorgeous. Damn.) So, I know how freaking horrible this is. It's crap.
From a female perspective, I'd say that a lot of girls really aren't into no strings attached sex because they're afraid of getting hurt, the risks are higher for girls both biologically and socially etc. Yet, Some are. Just be honest about what you're looking for first and you;ll be far more successful. You see, a lot of girls are reticent because they are afraid of getting hurt, but of you;re honest with them you;re more likely to find girls who are happy to oblige. Is there anyone you could call on a friend with benefits basis? Otherwise,if this doesn't look like it's going to happen maybe it's time to get more acquainted with yourself. Grab some p*rn or whatever you prefer and get busy. Sorry if that's TMI, but it's realistic. Hope this helps.0