So there is this girl I am good friends with. She recently got out of a very serious relationship. She and I trust each other, and we have told each other things that we wouldn't tell anyone else of the opposite sex (as in, she tells me things that she doesn't tell other guys). We are on that level.
When she was in the relationship some months ago she did tell be how happy I would make a girl. She tells me that often actually. I think she and I would go good together, but I feel wrong pursuing her because I do know that she needs time to heal.
Here's the problem: There are about 4 other guys that are after her, whom she has said that she can see herself dating, but she's still feeling them out (not literally!). I have made it clear to her that I am not after her, because that is technically true, but now I'm getting a sense of urgency because the other guys are after her!
What should I do?
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Is actually sounds a lot like me and my boyfriend. I was friends with this guy, but I had always secretly had a crush on him, so I suppose that's why I was friends with him in the first place. I ended my relationship with my boyfriend of five years because after spending so much time with my guy friend, I realized that he would treat me better than my ex did. Then I realized that my ex didn't treat me as well as I thought. My guy friend and I just sort of mutally decided that we really liked each other and started dating. My point is that she may be telling you that she's about to consider one of the other guys because she wants some sort of sign that you like her as more than a friend. The truth is that it would be a weird decision for her to spend all this time with her best guy friend and tell him everything then go out with a guy that she barely knows. I say if it feels right to you, definitely pursue her if the thought of her dating someone that's not you is too much to bear. She may be ready to date again because she's already "feeling out" other guys, but if you end up succeeding, go slow with her because she may need time and not realize it.0