Not like in an overbearing "I must pay!" way... but more like, she always offers and sometimes pays for you anyway because she wants to... and what about if she sometimes gets you gifts or buys you food that she knows you like or asks you before she gets food so she can get you something? I know, odd question. XD
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That whole moment is painful even if it's me paying with no contest from her.
In principle it's fine, I'm sure it could be nice. In practice however, it's a minefield.
If I could be convinced that you actually like me and are *totally* cool with paying and want to do it then that's when it's fine. The problem is that for every girl like that there's at a girl who is willing to pay but if the guy doesn't offer first then she's pissed and it's a dumpable offense. Then there's the girl that will offer to pay but not really because on the inside she will insist that you, as a guy, should always offer and should overrule her even when she offers. Not to mention the girl that simply straight up expects a guy to pay. I truly wish that we could just let girls pay half the time and not fuss about such crap, but the safest route is to always offer and be insistent as a guy and it's super annoying. Dare I say I'd prefer a time when a guy would just pay and that was that, it'd be simple and we could be honest with each other. Instead girls have to play these games where guys only have one real move anyway. It's a silly dance. It's jumping through hoops. I'd love to not have to jump through hoops but there doesn't seem to be enough of the sort of women that are straightforward, honest and are *completely* cool with paying in order for me to feel comfortable not paying for a date. And all this being understood, it makes me kinda annoyed when I do pay, no matter what the circumstances. I just don't want to deal with such crap.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Its not even about how guys feel, its how other girls make you feel if your guy isn't paying for you. Luckily I no longer care about societal standards and I have a mind of my own so I know if I want to pay then its no big deal, but still js. If anybody was wondering, girls are most impressed if the guys actions can also impress other girls.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE