Now this isn't happening currently but this has happened to me in the past, where some guy I used to talk to or who barely gave me the time of day suddenly wants to pop back up in my life and "get at me." I won't be specific about who it was (not that any of you would know lol) but to save details, but I've had guys who went from being a casual guy I sort of spoke to, to someone I barely knew in high school who suddenly became determined to get with me, only to be shocked/disappointed to find out that I'm taken. They ask to be friends, but continue to flirt and talk about how they wish they could have been with me, they try to push sexual conversation, or even try to ask me out or ask me to see them privately without telling my boyfriend. I always try to be rational with them but they often disregard it or get frustrated which leads to be getting snippy back.
Note: yes, I end up blocking and deleting these people. The only reason I ask this Q is because a friend of mine inspired me when I thought back on my personal situations and I wonder how other people would handle it. So what would you do if someone you knew couldn't get over you being in a relationship and still tried to get with you?
Most Helpful Guy
After a certain point, I'd be fairly bold and forward to them. If you've tried rationally talking to them and nothing is working, then your best bet is to just be as bold and as upfront as you can. They might consider this hostile, but you've tried any and all ways to get them to back off. Ignore their messages after awhile and block them from any and all social media. Hopefully, they don't know where you live 😅. Either way, try isolating yourself from them first and the if that doesn't work, be upfront with them and then isolate them from your life. Calling the police can be a solution if they're being creepers.2
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Most Helpful Girl
From my perspective, what's afoot is simply a combination lock that is not in sync, e. g. when they are "taken" they are aloof then when shopping again and you come to mind as candidate #1, they enter the denial phase of disaster. To their credit they are not the feather another nest before dumping the one in the present nest onto the rocks below.
No one has enough friends, so... if they have behave themselves as friends, not romantic flirts... they may stay. Sometimes the boyfriend has to remind them with intimidation this etiquette to remain in contact.
Otherwise, it's best to realize that some candidates for The One are simply on another ocean liner, different schedules so are just passing by and to be enjoyed as only that.1