Just like with college, people say don't hold off on relationships because you never know who you are gonna meet and how. Apparently it's better to get into the practice of dating so you are better prepared for when you really , really are into someone one day and wanna be their everything. However I have come to the conclusion that relationships aren't for me. At least not at this time. There is the sex I'll be missing but I can please myself just fine. And for companionship theirs always friends and family members to go to. I just really feel like this is a bad point in my life to accept the offers in dates I have had though my friends and family encourage me to take them. I want to be emotionally ready, secure with a great job, and have gone to school... Is that the wrong way to be ready? Am I being too traditional? Because its not that I am not open minded or modern in many ways because I am... I just don't want to get to the point where everything turns to shit and face the hurt because this time it might be someone I was with for a long while.
Most Helpful Guy
It depends on what you are looking for. If you believe you want to find someone to settle down with then being secure in areas such as finance and housing will not add risk to the relationship. If in the end it doesn't work out you dont want to be without anything. I guess the real thing you have to ask is if you are ready for whatever said relationship to either work or not. If you want to elevate things and talk about having children. Then yes most definitely i believe that people should wait. I see a lot of parents nowadays who have no idea how to conduct themselves and are stuck in a cycle of financial instability which further adds stress to their lives, all while having to raise a child and try to teach them better when they dont know what better is otherwise they wouldn't be in that situation. The final say is MY opinion if you want to raise kids to not be stuck in the same world we are then constant nourishment and attention are vital. If you are dating someone and it doesn't work its only really you who is affected.1
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Most Helpful Girl
Honestly I waited until I was more secure before dating seriously, people harassed me about it for years. Most of them are in shit relationships now, and mine is great. So yeah it's obvious what I think.2