Like testing the waters so to speak. you have multiple people you are seeing and are not exclusive with any one of them yet but are testing them all out to see if you want to be exclusive with them. This way if one turns you down you aren't too upset about it because you have others lined up to see.
Do you feel this is wrong? should you only see one person at a time even before you are exclusive with them?
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This is precisely the dating strategy I've adopted. There is nothing unethical about this, either, since exclusivity is not implied at all. That's why we use the term "long-term relationship", in contrast to just saying that you've been going on dates with someone. For the vast majority of human history, people either got married immediately with an expected permanency, or they would court multiple people and choose one afterwards. Since you have no guarantee that you two will like each other or that after months of dating, the other person won't give you a "let's just be friends" talk, then I think this is totally justified. On the other hand, if you're doing this once you've established that you two are a "thing", HELL NO! If you're going to do that, then there *must* be consent both ways (either way, in my opinion, it's not a good idea).
This is actually called "Plate Theory" on a blog written to describe intergender dynamics. I can't post links, but you can look it up: It's called "The Rational Male", and the plate theory posts can be found under the best of year one collection1