Like testing the waters so to speak. you have multiple people you are seeing and are not exclusive with any one of them yet but are testing them all out to see if you want to be exclusive with them. This way if one turns you down you aren't too upset about it because you have others lined up to see.
Do you feel this is wrong? should you only see one person at a time even before you are exclusive with them?
Most Helpful Girl
Coming from me personally when I get to know a guy that is the only guy I talk to I don't need to talk to multiple guys at the same time. And if I believe and feel in my heart he's not the right guy for me I just move on and I will wait and be patient until someone comes along. I don't go fishing and searching. But I have done it before in the past nothing good comes out of it just exhaustion and frustration only difference was I wasn't talking to multiple guys. Sometimes when people feel the need to see multiple people at the same time there is usually a void that they are trying to feel.2
Most Helpful Guy
This is precisely the dating strategy I've adopted. There is nothing unethical about this, either, since exclusivity is not implied at all. That's why we use the term "long-term relationship", in contrast to just saying that you've been going on dates with someone. For the vast majority of human history, people either got married immediately with an expected permanency, or they would court multiple people and choose one afterwards. Since you have no guarantee that you two will like each other or that after months of dating, the other person won't give you a "let's just be friends" talk, then I think this is totally justified. On the other hand, if you're doing this once you've established that you two are a "thing", HELL NO! If you're going to do that, then there *must* be consent both ways (either way, in my opinion, it's not a good idea).
This is actually called "Plate Theory" on a blog written to describe intergender dynamics. I can't post links, but you can look it up: It's called "The Rational Male", and the plate theory posts can be found under the best of year one collection1