There's this guy that I've been dating for a month and he recently told me that he still has feelings for his ex girlfriend; The only girl whom he's been in love with. I wasn't angry when he told me, but it changed something inside of me. Even though he mentioned that he was looking for something serious, I can't help but feel like a rebound chick. Is he using me to get over her? Probably. Last night, before we hung up the phone, he said, "Wuv you." I shrugged it off, but he said it again and then added "That's our thing, wuv you." Not wanting to hurt his feelings, I said it back. Amazingly enough, it changed the way I wanted to be with him. He possibly can't mean all of these things ("There's just something about you", "I love being with you", etc.) Is it bad that I want to help him get over his ex without wanting to get attached to him? Will this help him, hurt him, or hurt me?
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I know it will hurt him. It did me when a girl did that to me after I got divorced. Me and that girl no longer speak to one another. It ended up causing a fight. Although.
Honestly it sounds to me like this guy is in the same boat I'm in. He really might love you. That could very well be true! But. Somewhere deep down he wishes that, that ex of his could just be right for him because he felt something for her he's never quite felt before. It was a different kind of love with her, it was an Admiration type of love, or even an adoration, he adored her, and she hurt him. She either cheated, left him, treated him poorly, but he can't help remembering those good times/admiration he once had for her because she used to be his dream girl, and treat him so right. Although sometimes us guys when we truly fall for a girl forget the horrible things they've done for us. Are you a rebound? Yes, and NO. Yes he needs you, he needs you as an emotional wall for him. He's showing you his weakness/sweet emotional side he obviously TRUSTS you. We don't just do that stuff with any girl. Yes he truly does love you. He just wants you to show him some good times too, to go out with him and form new memories, to help him forget her, by this I don't mean as a rebound, I mean as a form new memories together as you fall for one another. He wants to give you his hole heart and for him to do that, he's showing you and told you, he has to forget her. So show him the way, help him move on and forget her, and have fun together; have great times that you'll never forget, do things you've always wanted to do together. Let's not forget my parting words of GOOD luck looks like you've got yourself a b/f. ;)
Best of luck hope this works out for you.0