Dating two guys - when should I cut it off with one of them? (Page 2)
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People are so stupid. It's just dating you don't owe them any commitment or explanation. Guys date multiple girls at once all the time, that's being smart!
Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Date both until one asks you to be exclusive if you can't decide which you like more. Just don't get physical with them because that'll cloud your judgement. No 2nd base or beyond before monogamy!!
I would cancel everything and tell them the truth but make sure you have friends that surrounds you when you do tell them another words back up plan yes you are wrong doing this I would cancel it and just wait for the right person to
It only becomes dangerous if you keep stringing them along. At some point, you must be honest... or you could certainly lose them both. Even the one who remains may have trust issues with you... You will have to make a choice... sooner rather than later.
you should leave them both because you clearly are either not mature enough, or are just too selfish and self centered to be dating yet
She's not actually in a relationship with either of them, so what's your problem?
easy, testing guys out clearly means she doesn't know what show wants, besides you're 15 so you don't even know what you want either
I already know I don't. We're not talking about me though, so pointing out my age was irrelevant. And yeah, people go on dates with multiple people to see if they've got a connection with them and if a relationship can be built between them. I personally wouldn't go on dates with more than one person at a time, but I don't see a problem with people who do. I really don't think it matters what you do with other people until you get in a committed relationship with someone. Once you've actually decided you're WITH someone, everyone else is off the table. Until that point though, you're free to meet with and get to know whoever you want.
this person is underage and so I'm guessing she is also 15 and I never really knew what dating was except for what my mother showed, she's a whore so my mom brought a guy home every night different guy and she said she was dating them all sooo yeah that's my experience with dating and being traumatized
Ah. I see where you're coming from now. Still though, not all women who are going out on dates with multiple men are doing what your mother did. I would never do anything sexual with someone I wasn't in a long term committed relationship with and who I didn't love, so to me, "dating" means meeting up at places, having conversations, and just generally getting to know somebody to find out if they're worth the hassle of a relationship.
well my biological fathers a legit pedophile sooo yeah I don't hold high standards with the family. if you want though you can just shoot me up a message and I'll tell ya everything else
@CarpetDenim Plenty of women are dating and sleeping with multiple men. If you deny this you're not being honest.
*cough cough my whore of a mother cough cough*
@burpzzzzz I wasn't denying it. I said not all women do that, and I said that's not my personal definition of dating someone. Truth be told, that kind of "dating" is just whoring around, plain and simple.
yeah like if someone's gonna whore around you may as well stand on a corner and get paid for it like my mom does
She can date two guys at the same time if she wants guys do the same thing right? Thank you
Yeah, as long as she's not actually in a relationship.
@CarpetDenim you tell it sister guys are such babies we can do the same thing too and better
It's not an age issue. Older women do it too.
@burpzzzzz and in turn that means girls can date two people at once so yeah 😊
@CarpetDenim More than enough women do and that's from my experience. Women in relationships and marriages used to hit on me try to sleep or dating me. To deny this is crazy. Women don't invest much in dating other than spending time. This is why I no longer date.
You're 15 and it does matter because you haven't lived life yet.
@naturalgirl This is why all guys should require women to go dutch. it weeds out the time waters, freeloaders who aren't interested. You women are too cheap and lazy which is why men no longer date.
@burpzzzzz Again, I wasn't denying it. There most certainly are terrible women out there who do things like that. That doesn't mean there's no good women out there either. And I don't see how getting older and "living life" is going to change my perception of the word "dating." I will never have casual sex with anybody, I will never go after a guy for superficial reasons, and if I am in a committed relationship I will never try to get with somebody else for any reason whatsoever. Cheating is not acceptable under any circumstances. Don't sit here and tell me my morals are going to change just because you want to forward your own narrative about how all women are lying, cheating, gold-digging sluts. That simply isn't true, definitely not for me and definitely not for a lot of other women.
@CarpetDenim It was the case women would go dutch. That would weed out gold diggers and yes age does matter because I have more experience than you. You are not the norm.
@burpzzzzz Could you explain what you mean by "go dutch"?
@CarpetDenim It means paying for your own way when dating.
@burpzzzzz That's fair. It does sound like a good way to, as you put it, "weed out the freeloaders." I agree. Women these days shouldn't be completely financially dependent on a man.
What are your intentions with dating two guys? What if it turns out you connect with both? It's gonna be even harder to tell one of 'em that you can't be in a relationship with him.
Just don't date them both. It only has disadvantages compared to dating one person.
Very first thing , why you are even dating two boys? that means that you are sincere with nobody. And you are saying that you will choose any one of them that will betraying and of course playing with one of them. What you can do is go with that third date leave these both two men because it will be better to leave both rather then leaving one. ( I am a boy saying this and if i was one of them and that happens to me these would be the feeling by any one of them).
But guys date more than girl what's wrong if a girl does it? Nothing
She's doing what she is supposed to as a single woman! What is she doing wrong?
@Prof_Don thank you!!!
I don't see anything wrong with dating more than one person when you're single... its not actually cheating. That's what single people do, they go out on dates with different people and once they find someone they really click with they make it official. But at some point after 3 dates and things start getting more serious, you should make a choice and let both of them know where they stand.
@naturalgirl same goes for boys
yeah of course
Don't worry about it, guys do this all the time with more than 2 other people!! I personally prefer to date exclusively but I guess having a backup makes it easier sometimes, as long as you cut everyone off when you get serious with one of them
@HereToProveMyPoint What you told her was to cut it off with both of them because you said having a backup makes it easier sometimes, as long as you cut everyone off when you get serious with one of them
@MysteriousDarkness Okay, I worded it badly, but I think it's obvious I meant when you get serious with one you cut everyone *else* off, and focus on that one
Nothing wrong with dating more than one person until you figure out which one you like the most. Just be honest with them both (all) that's all. Tell them you're dating others so they don't think they are the only ones.
Use your own standards as a guideline. Ask yourself the same question, if a guy was dating two women, one of which was you, when would YOU want to know?
If you're just going on dates it's fine and they know you're seeing other people it's fine.. but once you're having sex with one or you talk about being exclusive then it's not.
Don't go on dates with other people, always stick with one cause it will make it complicated. You either pick one or none, the one you feel closet with or the one you decided to go on date with first.
Do the pro and cons list to them both. Then decide after that to be honest I wouldn't tell none of them anything but you do have to pick just one at the end.
see which one of them clicks better with you. State down logical facts about both of them. Pros and cons. How well do you know them? Are you under the illusion theyre perfect? etc
You're dating not in any sort of relationship. Date as many people as you want till you decide to be a couple. That is what dating is for. To give you the opportunity to make an informed decision.
Your best to choose and date the guy who seems to be the best
Just go by what your heart tells you , I'm sure both guys are nice
but only you can decide which one is the better one to date.
If you are not exclusive with them, date both of them a few more times. By then you should have an idea of which you like better.
You don't have to decide until you get serious, as in are making plans to move in with one.
Pit them against each other in combat to the death.
It's the easiest way to decide which is best.
I strongly feel you should tell them the truth, tell them you want them both I know it will be a tough thing to hear for both of them they might be upset, You shouldn't be made to choice YOU LOVE THEM BOTH so they'll have to decide wether they are willing to lose you over the fact that you love them both, because if you carry on the way you are now you will find yourself in a situation where they both hate you, say unkind things to you on even worse. Better sooner than later
I would say continue dating both and make it clear to them that you're dating other people. Honesty is the key here.