How often do you text a person you're interested in?

I don't mean your bf/gf I mean just someone you're interested in or casually dating?
Just curious to see where people stand with this.


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  • Depends on the day. I use full sentences, punctuation, and grammar and expect the same. We (when I was with someone) have some days talked all day and then some very little. I'd rather have good communication than none.

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    • I use full sentences, punctuation, and grammar and expect the same.
      ^^^
      I think you might be the one! 😍
      Lol! πŸ˜‚

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  • If your age is accuraye, I'd start off at 1-2 times a week one to say hi or thanks for the last date/I had fun/etc and one to hopefully plan another date. If he initiates a text that may be another 1-2 interactions in a week so 3-4 texts/ week is probably enough to show interest but not appear as a Stage 5er.

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    • Hahaha Na I'm for sure not a stage 5er.
      It was actually just a random question. But that you for the advice. 😊

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  • At least everyday. If I like you I want to maintain a connection with you regularly. Familiarity makes me comfortable, and makes you become more apart of my life.

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  • 24 7 all the time, if I'm asleep and she texts me I instantly wake up for her, and if she starts ignoring me then I get the message she don't like me so I'll leave and tell her to fuck herself if she came back wanting me

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  • I text about once every 15-30 minutes. If they don't respond for a while, I'll start sending things in all caps like WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME? and if it goes for more than say, 2 hours I'm over at their house waiting in the bushes.

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  • Before sex: every 20 min or something crazy. After sex, 'babe, I told you I'm working. I'm sure you can go 8 hours without hearing from me.'

    And no, it has nothing to do with how into her I am.

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    • Lmao. Kind of a dick move no?

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    • A@hole

    • @christinerose89, just because a guy sleeps with you does not mean you are entitled to every minute if his life. I find it's best to have a girlfriend who has friends & hobbies.

  • Life is fucking short! Stop playing elementary games! Text and talk, you know if you like them... if they're not recognizing or reciprocal then slowly back away and move on... People will communicate with who they want when they want!

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  • I like this question.. This is something I would make a post about.
    I text her (crush) maybe three days out of the seven. But not just a "Hey"
    It needs to be a real text conversation.

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    • Thanks! 😊
      Was curious how people felt on this topic. Obviously opinions vary widely. Crazy.
      Agree with the real convo too.

  • Plenty of times! I rarely ever text anyone. Unless you’re a crush or someone I’m genuinely interested in, I will take a lot of action towards our relationship. Otherwise, I wouldn’t and that would simple mean that I don’t like you as much as you think.

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  • One a week I guess. I don't text for conversation, I would call for that. A text is more a quick message of confirmation or to organize something and write down the info.

    Then it depends on how they reciprocate. At worst, I probably will fight the urge to text or call and can go a whole month without contact.

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  • There's a girl I really like... I've been trying to text her daily as much as I can. She deals with some difficult mental health issues and I worry for her so I try to make a point of being there to take her mind of stuff.

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  • if i could magically get their number... very often, i really do not know a tactful way of asking them upfront and get nervous.. sometimes it is easier for me to text things , i dont have problem talking to women bomen but usually they have to start with even the dumbest statement, i always afraid my stupid statemen scare the off... ithink i just thought of a new question lol

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  • Well, I just texted my landlord to fix my toilet, so I hope he doesn't think I'm interested in him! lol

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  • I dunno. It depends on the day. I never want to be to clingy. So I might text once a day to see what her day is like. If she is busy I let it rest and go on with my life. If it seems she is not too busy we might chat a few times throughout the day.

    It's also dependant on the girl some like more attention than others.

    If it were up to me if never stop talking. So I have to be really mindful about not bothering people

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  • I'll text as often as she likes and as infrequent as she likes, I'll just let her control it. But I'd much rather talk on the phone as it seems anyone can type and easier to play games. I'm old fashioned and prefer talking.

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  • When I want. I don't try and play dumb games. I just talk to them for as long or as short as the conversation goes and I don't worry about anything else. People I'm talking to now? At least a few hours a day.

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  • It doesn't matter. But if you are thinking on the lines of just staying relevant to the person then text them at least every two days minimum. But don't ramble, talk about them or a new movie or something of interest to them.

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  • I'm not great at half-measures. Like, if I like you, I'm pretty much going all in, texting everyday.

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    • I don't disagree assuming it's a back and forth. If I have 20 msgs when I get back to my phone, were gonna have an issue. Lol

    • Oh yeah. That's obviously not cool. I'll text a lot if the conversation is good, but I'm faaaaaaar from being a clinger. lol

    • Hey, you never know. Some guys really are. 😳

  • For starters, maybe once before and once after work or school... don’t appear needy! Be casual, considerate and confident... if he or she is worthy of you, they’ll respond! There will always be other relationships if this one doesn’t work out. Good luck!

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  • I just reply to their texts when I can. Playing games like "oh they're gonna think I'm clingy" and shits stupid, don't do that. Just fucking act like it's a conversation in person and you're good. Nobody worth talking to gives a shit that you reply quickly.

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  • I don't mind her texting first but I will see the length and replying time to decide at what pace I should reply. If I'm the person who starts conversation then I will think. But if she's apologizes what she's doin and tells me the reason. I don't mind as long as it is true.

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  • I text my wife twice a day. If I were suddenly single it would be about the same. Hate being drawn into an all day text conversation like my daughter tries to pull me in to. One 5 minute conversation equals 100 text messages.

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  • Depends how I feel... it can be anything from strategic messages during strategic times or full blown conversations as if She's right here with me all day and night

    Lol

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  • I usually don't care if a girl stops texting me back, but there is this one girl that I really like and I would be a bit upset if she stopped texting me. If I really liked a girl I wouldn't stop texting her lets put it that way.

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  • As often as possible. Unless they start ignoring me.

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    • Lmao. I feel like there must be more to this story. You probably did something to her first, Im sure you're probably the one in the wrong. Just saying.

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    • Haha. I'm a nice-ish douche to her though and she's still so mean. XP

    • I'm sure you're being overly sensitive or something. She's probably lovely.

  • 50/50

    You never wanna be the one who's overly interested or even appears that way and if she's not putting in any effort or giving short replies consistently then I move on.

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  • Not to much as she travels so much and I gotta study and am busy with my nieces a lot. But lucky for me she understands.

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  • Everyday i message her online and she message back we talk like 1 hour straight but dunno if she's interested as a friend or more anyway she's a very good person she makes me feel good that's why i keep messaging her πŸ˜‡

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  • The more interested i am the less I seem to text since it makes me look busy and stops me wrecking things and keeps girls more keen.

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  • For me it's throughout the day. If it's everyday it has to be spaced. If it's here and there throughout the week id rather calls then meets. For me this could vary though... needs to be experienced

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  • I would text a girl who i was interested in often to show her that i cared
    about her but i wouldn't want come off as thirsty and text her compulsively.

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  • I do it when i remember him/her.
    I do it when i need him/her.
    I do it when i miss him/her

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  • I am trying so hard not to text him now! I want to text him at least every day, but I dare not. He knows how to text. He'll text me if he wants to text me. lol we've had two dates and another scheduled for Sun. He texted me yesterday and I answered him this morning. So I guess I'm texting him every day.

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  • it can be different for different people.. but it's definitely more than rest of the people they talk to.. I don't really talk to anyone everyday.. not even my best friend.. but If I like someone.. I'd try and squeeze in a text or two everyday lol.. only if he likes me too..

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  • It depends on the day or person. If I'm busy or they are it might be once a day or for hours at a time. I prefer phone conversation over text if we aren't able to physically hangout. I'm not into games so if I wanna text someone I will and feel them out it they want to or can text at that moment.

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  • As little as possible and i will tell them that and ask for the same id rather not really even call or text its just flat and pointless and creates want and neediness and apparently for some pure torment if they its been read and they haven't replied...
    id rather just see you when we planned... hhhmmm anyone remember those days...

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    • Yes. The days when you used payphones for a quarter

    • If you want to know someone's mind talk to them, if you want to know their heart, watch their actions...

  • Im so weird. I like the guy but I'm still too scared to text him. I'll email him but not text.
    There was one time I emailed him (it was work related - as he works in our head office) and he was like "no text me".
    I'm still too shy πŸ‘€

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  • Maybe once - twice a week. I chat about school stuff then move on to their stuff in the chat. We're in the beginning though. I don't know how he feels yet so taking it slow.

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  • The guys I'm into always ghosts for a bit after we text for a whole day. Then he asks why I stopped texting him

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  • Once a day..
    Unless im always the lne to text first. Then i check if they text too and if they dont i might text another time after 2 days
    And if i feel like the first "try" didn't go well and i think we can do it better i text another time
    But this is only talking about starting the conversation

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  • We Went Form Taking Everyday.. To Going 2-3 Days Without Talking.. to Going A Week Without Talking.. Now We Don't Talk Anymore

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  • Maybe once or twice a day, unless we're having a conversation.

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  • On daily basis without being too pushy.
    But sometimes if I sent the last message and he left me on read, I will wait for him to start the conversation (depends if that guy is shy or not)

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  • I’m not a big fan of texting. If I can’t find things to talk about I just don’t reply. It’s easier to talk about things in person anyway. Texting can cause you to take things out of context.

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  • 2-3 times/week. I try not to let a convo be longer than it needs to be either if it's just pleasantries. I try to be the first to leave a conversation at least half the time or more to keep them wanting more.

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  • I don't TEXT them ever. But am sick and tired of their bullshit

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    • ... Uhhhm I'm sorry. πŸ˜•
      Maybe tell them that, and get all that shit off your chest then you can go from there. Either way, no more playing around. In or out.

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    • Lol I was like that sometimes still get a bit crazy with the texts but I stop quite quickly after realising now. Men are annoying if they ignore u just do it back then they will text

    • @Christinerose89
      maybe theye find you annoyin because they are always are getting overloaded by way too many texts

  • I used to text loads but it really annoys men lol so I keep it minimal now just give them some space too much texting makes u look crazy. If I was casualy dating someone I would just text them a little but a boyfriend I would text more

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  • I text my husband several times a day! He's the only guy that holds my interest!!

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  • Too often πŸ˜‚πŸ‘ŒπŸ»πŸ€¦πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ
    If we're really vibing then I'm eager to respond to the point that it's distracting

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  • A lot, but sometimes I'll be busy and i try to have them be aware of it, so my texting them maybe limited. But if it's someone I'm dating or more, then I'll be texting them a little more.

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  • I really don't have numbers in my phone to text. No one really notices me.

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  • Maybe everyday. If we hit it off really well, we would tone down on the messages and probably opt for phone calls instead

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  • Usually everyday but its whenever they want to talk to me, that way if its often i know theyre someone i could have a good relationship with

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  • when i got the chance. i mean, i don't like it when people text me with no reasons, so when I start to get attracted with a guy, I don't want them felt like I disturb them with something meaningless.. well *shrug* it just me

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  • I talk as long as he keeps replying. Sometimes I'll message a guy if I think of something they might like during the day when we aren't talking too

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  • If the convo is flowing we can chit chat, text, talk until that cows come home. But really throughout the day.

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  • Consistently but not to over the top especially if you work or have other things going on.

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  • Depends on the guy. Past experience I text them when they text back.
    If they don't seem interested then I stop texting them

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  • I don't. I've literally stopped caring about trying with people I like so I don't text them or show them I'm interested at all.

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    • Might wanna be more blunt then next time, no human can read minds. That get things done quickly.

    • @david878 might want to read the comment again. It's intentional. I don't want them to know, I don't want them to read minds and I'm not interested in them finding out.

  • This is something I've been wondering myself, I just started seeing this guy a little bit ago. We've went on a few dates so far. probably about a few times over the week.

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  • Not so often, but still enough I guess haha
    in general I don't like to text daily with someone, no matter with whom

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  • Well it depends on them, I take their lead. And I find most guys are absolute shit so it ends up not often πŸ˜”

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