My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and 7 months - so like super long. I know I care deeply for him but I don't feel like he's putting the same amount of effort into the relationship as I have been doing. It's like we're just together and we've turned into this old married couple who don't do anything fun or exciting anymore.
Sometimes I think about leaving and going after someone who'd give me a little more attention and adventure but I know I'd miss my current boyfriend so much and I'd regret it the moment I tried to end things.
Does anyone else ever feel like this?
Most Helpful Guy
The main reason why you, and most other people feel this way, is because the level of consciousness of the two people involved in the relationship is limited to a connection between two minds, rather than a connection between two souls or the higher self.
Changing partners will end in the same way, but at first you will feel excitement, new adventure... and then boredom, restlessness, apathy, and then you, or the guy will want to split up.
The relationship is not the problem, the limit is in the connection. When two people connect more physically, and egoistically, than spiritually, and from a higher self, then they suffer the fate that the ego often suffers.
If you want to change this, both of you will need to change how you connect, how you think, how you relate. Mindfulness, being able to cease the internal chatterbox, and connecting at a deeper level through learning each others soul, life purpose, and internal energy.
Also, as soon as you decide this relationship is not enough, or that he hasn't been putting in enough effort. Even if this wasn't the case, a part of you within, will begin to start checking out, finding more fault, and finding a reason to leave. Intent is very powerful, and you intend to move on...0
Most Helpful Girl
You both have to grow together in the relationship. The relationship does not stop just because the two of you may live together and been together for so many years. You still have to do things together as a couple to keep the spark alive.3