I've attracted way too many fuckboys than I am comfortable with, and I don't know why. I'm not a girl who puts out; I'm shy, naive, a bit awkward, so on. Granted, my innocence has led to some... uncomfortable situations... but everyone seems to take my shy friendliness as "Hey, I'm down to fuck!" Why is that? I'm not being flirtatious, I'm not looking for sex... I just want a kind, friendly, funny guy who respects my boundaries and doesn't ditch me the second he finds out I'm not into flings/hookups, or tries to push me into situations that I had no intention of dealing with. Why don't the good guys approach me? Why do I only seem to attract fuckboys?
Add-On: I'm not a bad person, either. I've been told that I'm nice, sweet, the type of girl guys really want, etc. What is going on?
Why don't I attract decent guys?
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Approach guys yourself. I get that it hasn't worked for you and it doesn't matter. Of course you're going to get rejected, it's completely normal and expected when on the approach, so it's not really an excuse is it? If a guy says girls are always rejecting him when he approaches you would accept that as an excuse for not approaching, so turning around and using the same excuse isn't going to cut it.
Guys who approach are statistically more likely to be jerks, that's just utterly basic. Let's frame your question differently and see how reasonable it sounds: Why don't the guys I want to talk to me come talk to me? Do you see how silly that sounds? They don't know you want them to, and they wouldn't know that to say, so you're expecting to make little or no effort and have the guys you want to approach you fall into your lap? Are you see how big an ask this is yet?
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Hey, don't blow our cover D:
We're hiding after all!