I've attracted way too many fuckboys than I am comfortable with, and I don't know why. I'm not a girl who puts out; I'm shy, naive, a bit awkward, so on. Granted, my innocence has led to some... uncomfortable situations... but everyone seems to take my shy friendliness as "Hey, I'm down to fuck!" Why is that? I'm not being flirtatious, I'm not looking for sex... I just want a kind, friendly, funny guy who respects my boundaries and doesn't ditch me the second he finds out I'm not into flings/hookups, or tries to push me into situations that I had no intention of dealing with. Why don't the good guys approach me? Why do I only seem to attract fuckboys?
Add-On: I'm not a bad person, either. I've been told that I'm nice, sweet, the type of girl guys really want, etc. What is going on?
Most Helpful Guy
Well it sounds like you're actually the good girl that's hard to find these days. Note that [most] of their dating, fuckable prime will only ever permit alphas to court with them, putting it modestly. As such, they're quite used to having their way with ditzy "princesses" blinded in their largely superficial pursuit to change the unchangeable, leaving us, the overlooked 80 % or so remaining, to make peace with rejection and porn. From this perspective analysis, maybe it would be worth finally giving the shy, quiet guy not really trying a go on your next social outing, and not so much so your typical, "Oh my God, he's so charming and has everything together, (or so it seems)," type. Basically, whatever you've been doing/ have been searching at, either try again, or perhaps the opposite reserving judgement until after you truly know the person.2
Most Helpful Girl
Try looking elsewhere, there's LOTS of good guys out there they just may be hiding hehe. Don't worry, you'll find someone. :)1