Would you give your ex a second chance, or a person who had initially rejected you?

Let’s say that you recently got a girlfriend or boyfriend, but your ex and another guy that initially rejected you start to realize that they have feelings for you (in the ex’s case, they may have always had feelings, just didn’t realize that it was still there). If things don’t work out with your current partner, and you break up, which would you be more willing to give another chance to?

  • Your Ex
    Vote A
  • The person who initially rejected you
    Vote B
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  • My ex, hands down. Most of my exes... we split amicably. I just traveled a lot. But I've both been on the streets, and had a lot of money, and when I was on the streets, I got to see how 90 percent of people REALLY are, not just what they talk about. And someone who initially rejects you-is NOT genuine. At least the ex actually gave you a shot once upon a time. For those whose ex crapped all over them... I can understand them choosing B. That doesn't happen to be my case. I won't even humanly acknowledge someone who initially rejects me after the fact. They're all style, no substance-but be the FIRST to scream for sympathy when it happens to them. Yeah, see ya!

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    • I kinda had that same idea as well. I can see why people wouldn’t want to go back to an ex, but at the same time, like you said, they did at least give you a chance and accepted you right away the first time. The person that rejected you didn’t even give it a thought until after you got with someone else or no longer paid any attention to them. I don’t understand that

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    • @pleasestopthis Because usually that person gives the one they rejected mixed signals, and don’t make it clear that they like them and are serious about them. This makes the other person (the one who was rejected by them) think that they are playing with their emotions and just want their attention back to boost their ego.

    • @pleasestopthis sounds like the reason why I ignore U. S. females and go out of my way to cater to immigrants. I've taught my sons to do the same. A landfill is more appealing in persona attitude. Hehehehe... smh.

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What Guys Said 45

  • If the ex had cheated on me, they never get a second chance. If the ex did not cheat, what is the reason for the breakup? If we reunite, are we going to encounter the same problem again? Aside from the reason for the breakup, did the previous relationship have the potential for a long term relationship?

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    • Well I’m just asking in general, but let’s say you and the ex were in love and yes had the potential to be long term. As for the break up reason, I guess nothing too severe that would make them hate each other. Same can be for the person who initially rejected you

    • The ex is a known quantity. I should have a good idea of what I am getting into with her. The one who rejected me is one who I don't know and that is a gamble. Is what I know about the ex good enough to make that a better opportunity than taking a chance with the unknown?

  • I voted B. I will NEVER go back to my ex. She cannot be forgiven for what she did.

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  • The ex is an ex for reasons. Why would I set that back up to fail again. So I was rejected but am being given a chance now... why not, unless the rejection part hurt my feelings. I would pay close attention to the reasons for the rejection... were they good reasons or just bias ones?

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    • What if they rejected you because they said that they would never see you as more than a friend

    • I'd have to know as to why. I'm I not good looking enough or was it a character defect that takes me out of the intimate department? If it was an assumption about me that later was proven wrong with time and my personal examples... fine, I'll get over it. If on the other hand it is something I could still fix or improve despite my now gained acceptance for whatever those reasons are... there's always room for improvement.

      Otherwise let's face it, I was triggered and now acting butt hurt by the rejection itself. Everyone deserves the right to reject anyone or anything they don't find suitable... even if that happens to be me.

  • I had rejected my friend and have loving her. So I know very well how you start having those feelings and there is a sense of respect for your partner. If you've been friends for a long time, you'll be the same no matter what your relationship status is.

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  • Rather give my ex a second chance depending on why we split up in the first place. But for someone who initially rejected me... hehehehe... hahahaha... oh, they'll get a chance alright.. but when im done with them...

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  • Both, if I felt like they would be worth it... and for the girl who rejected me I obviously wanted her because I felt that she was worth it... And if me and my ex ended badly then maybe I'd try to redeem it...

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  • No, once you leave me, I don't have to see you anymore. My ex left me and i couldn't understand why someone who once loved you, could hurt you this much. She does not even exist to me anymore.

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    • So does that mean you would give the person who initially rejected you a chance?

    • No way, you don't want me initially, I don't want you at all.

  • I though about this question for a day or so. If my wife were to pass away I would consider a relationship with my first wife. 30 years ago, I was young and treated her like shit. She has fallen on hard times and I would like to make sure she was taken care of.

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  • Neither and I will explain why. Either they broke up with me for a stupid reason or I broke up with them. I broke up because of blg lies, cheating, controlling parents, did not see them moving out soon enough, would not move in with me unless married etc. If I was initially rejected then that is the reason not to go with someone.

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  • The person who initially rejected me i would give them a second chance.

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  • I already know a relationship with a ex won't work, but a person who rejected me and then wanted to hook up after changing their mind i know that there is some potential for a relationship.

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  • Neither, too many risks. I know if I get back with my ex, the relationship will be too awkward. I know that a woman who initially rejected me only has false attraction to me in which she doesn’t actually like me.

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  • Very definitely choice B! Even If I go back to my EX I'll ruin her life as she ruined mine! Revenge time BITCH! HAHAHA

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  • I had to pick my EX... as She was the ONE... LOVE of MY LIfe. BUT if I was thinking properly (ever got over her), It would probably the option #2.

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  • it would really depend on why we the ex and broke up and the reasons why the person rejected me and how they went about rejecting me.

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  • Neither one, please
    time is precious, can't be replaced like money
    so move ahead, no peeking in rear view mirror
    else wasting time getting to a more perfect (perhaps forever) match

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  • nah sorry you can't just reject someone and take them back something doesn't seem right

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    • So then you prefer giving the ex a second chance?

    • well no for me I got screwed over so I wouldn't go back and have her go off with another bloke she already shagged behind my back

  • It's depends on the reason of the break up like if they had broke up with u for silly reason. Then no

    If it was a valid reason. yes I'll accept her back

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  • Neither. With a ex, I won't put my shitty underware back on. Bring rejected, if I wasn't good enough then, whay am I good enough now?

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  • Yes for me I will forgive my ex and give her second anf last chance.. This will make her more appreciate in the future

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  • If I was in a relationship, hell to the no. I wouldn't ditch a potential lifelong relationship for a guy who "changed his mind". But if I was single, I might consider giving a chance to a guy who rejected me at first, it would be unlikely, though. But my exs are exs for very good reasons, so they are never getting another chance.

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  • Nope.

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    • Are you saying neither?

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    • 1) They're an ex for a reason
      2) If you decided you didn't want me you get to live with that decision. I'm not a backup option.

    • Well said 👏

  • B - the guy who rejected me. He may have had some problems in his life and wasn't ready to date at that particular time. It may have been a case of... the timing was wrong for him

    Once a relationship ends , I move on emotionally and mentally. My feelings fade and they can never be rekindled , but I could develop feelings for a guy who initially rejected me

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  • Maybe the rejected one but I think it'd depend on the history with the ex & whether I broke up with them or not. If they were really not worth dating in the first place I'd definitely, definitely, go for B but yeah maybe. I think I'd wait a little bit to see if it's just because I'm not single that they're interested in me. Guys do often want what they can't have because they can't have it.

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  • The ex already had their chance. The other may but it would depend upon how I feel about them and why they rejected me. Typically I just move on and leave things alone after rejection.

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  • Well I would never go back to an ex boyfriend; an ex hubby maybe, but not an ex boyfriend. And funny this is that only guy I ever really wanted has rejected me. And I wouldn't go back with an ex, because I already dated them enough to know how to move on. But the guy that rejected me, I never got that chance with. And if I had that chance, I'd take it in a heartbeat, but he's in a happy relationship, and I don't wanna ruin that. But if he was single 'n' went for me, I'd definitely go for it.

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  • This question is ironic because my ex definitely opened up Pandora's box on my already insane life a few weeks ago by telling me that he still has feelings for me after almost 9 years of being broken up! And i have another guy who i have feelings for but rejected me, but also won't let me walk away. So yeah, this question is kind of my life atm.

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    • Wow, so you have two choices! Lol, do you know who you want to choose?

    • Every time I lean one way, something pushes me towards the other. I'm not good with this kind of stuff lol. Up until a few weeks ago, I didn't even know that I still had feelings for my ex. There's a ton of history there tho.

  • Depends on why they became an ex in the first place. why give it a chance for it not to work the second time round!

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    • So does that mean that you will give the person who initially rejected you another chance?

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    • I didn’t mean it like that. I meant that would you give them another chance (to be with you) even though they rejected you at first?

    • it’s like that line “back then they didn’t want me, now I’m hot! He had he’s chance so NO I wouldn’t!!

  • If the guy person rejected me because for some reason the situation didn't add up and it is not a problem now then yeah, I will accept them back. If they rejected me for another girl and then they break up then he comes back to me then absolutely not, I will never take them back. For the ex, that's just a no.

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  • Neither.
    Every person I ended up splitting with was for a reason... so no.
    And the people who rejected me - what made them change their mind all of a sudden? Suspicious... so no...

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  • I've never been in a bad relationship so I picked A. I picked A also because I have to much pride to go out with someone who rejected me.

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  • Both I think in right circumstance. I think I not want to in both. I just know sometimes you need give someone chance also

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  • Good Question. I would gave the person a chance but not my ex.

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  • I would date my ex again

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  • neither, If I had to choose , option b.

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  • Not the rejected

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  • I will give chance to ex.

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  • A guy rejected me once when I was an ugly duckling and he's turned out to be the ugly one now, haha. So I wouldn't date him, but I would prefer that over dating an ex again.

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  • The person who initially rejected me

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