I am new to dating (only been on 2 dates so far and I'm 21). I have talked to guys before and we "hung out" in my room or went and got Wendy's. I thought I was just being relaxed and having fun - we are college students and most of us are broke. But apparently guys take it to mean you are "easy" which hurts my feelings. I never had sex before so it really stings that people make this assumption. I always thought guys liked women who weren't after their money but clearly I was wrong - my high maintenance friends have guys falling all over them and giving them gifts, writing them letters, etc. And they aren't even in committed relationships yet, just "talking" or casually dating. They get all the guys while I'm trying to be nice and get none. Am I trippin or is are low maintenance women trashy now?
Most Helpful Guy
Low maintenance is irrelevant to this. If doing these things makes someone think you might be easy, then it's the hanging out in your bedroom part. If you're taking guys to your bedroom, alone, to hangout then that suggests "things" happen in there. If you want to avoid that, then make sure other people are around and leave the door open the whole time. Or just don't hangout in the bedroom.
The concept of you and him alone in a room, with a bed says a lot to people. You have to remember you're still human. As innocent as your intentions may be. If you're alone with a guy in your bedroom, with the door closed then it will be a common assumption by many that something is going to happen, unless it's VERY clear you don't find him attractive in any way at all. Like he's a 4'2 midget, with a purple beard.3
Most Helpful Girl
If you give a man an easy time even if it doesn't entail sex he won't respect you. Take it from me a grown woman. They will say I am wrong but trust me.
Just so younger girls don't get the wrong idea, a girl not worth half of what you do will get the world simply because she pressures and manipulate him, not saying you should do the same as we are simple girls, but don't make it so easy for him.
Yes hang out sometimes, but you have no time to hang out all the time, doing the same simple stuff and make time for your female friends, don't be too available, he''l forget about you and make it about him.3