Man: You look amazing today.
Me: Thanks. I thought it was high time I take a shower.
Man: You killed your presentation.
Me: Thanks. I practiced all night in front of my army of cats.
Woman: I love your necklace! It's so vintage.
Me: Thanks. I stole it off a corpse.
I make it clear that I'm joking in all of these situations. I'm just wondering if maybe... I should take compliments more gracefully.
Most Helpful Guy
It's hard to say. But there's definitely a different cultural appreciation for that kind of humour in our respective countries.
UK: '[chuckles] ah, he's one of his. One of the plebs. He doesn't take himself too seriously.'
USA: '[stony silence]. Dude, what's wrong. You need a confidence boost. You know, I know the name of a good counsellor.'
I can imagine what you say would go down less well there. Which is fine. I can definitely detect some sense of a not particularly high opinion of oneself, or some jadedness, what have you? Ultimately we like to be around people who feel good about themselves, and project at least some lightness. But all lightness is sickening, and also, it's unauthentic - no one is perfect or feels good all of the time. So a good balance is key I think, and it makes you more relate-able.
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Most Helpful Girl
Only if you make jokes about yourself like that left and right. Like if you respond to every single compliment with something like that. Instead of coming off as confident and funny (not taking yourself too seriously) it might end up coming off as insecure and you not knowing how to just say thank you. Or you "hiding in plain sight" with your insecurities - always joking about them to make you look highkey confident but it makes you lowkey seem like you think about these things all the time. And instead of it being funny it just makes it seem like you're dragging yourself.
I have a friend like that, she's a great person and really does have a great sense of humor. But after getting to know her better and some of the insecurities she has, her self-deprecating humor now has a different undertone. And sometimes I wish that she would stop trash talking herself, even if she's cloaking it as "humor".