OK, met a guy, we've been exchanging messages, and now privately on email since the start of July. We arrange to speak. I call, he doesn't answer. Get an email the next day apologizing as he was working late.
I say no bother, call whenever. Says he'll call next day and doesn't. Poof! No contact for a week so I drop him a line asking if everything is OK, if its just work or did he get a little nervous or unsure, if he did its OK there is no pressure.
Get an email back the next day to say he'd been out of the country on v short notice with work, apologizing, explaining what had happened, asking me questions about a couple of other things, and then telling me he's been offered a job abroad for 12 months from next summer and he doesn't know what to do?
He ends it by saying hope you are having a nice day.
So now I’m a little like, well how do I respond to that? I have no reason to disbelieve him when he says he got called away from what he’s said to me in the past. He didn’t mention about calling again, but he didn’t not mention it either, and I guess with the bombshell he just landed it was probably better not to.
I’m a little confused if he is telling me that so I’ll back off, or if he just wants to be honest with me? I want to write back and say congratulations, great news etc, and I want to try to get to know him better regardless as its 8 months until he goes which is ages away yet. I guess I could say congrats etc, doesn’t change anything here, want to get to know you etc and just see how he responds.
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honey...i think he's lying to you completely. A lot of people on online dating pretend to be who they can't be in person. He was enjoying talking to you, the attention. But then when the time came for you to actually speak. He backed out and made up some fabricated story about how his job is so incredible that he got offered work oversea's. No offense. A man who is doing well for himself, usually doesn't have to meet a woman off the internet. Not saying that there's anything wrong with it. Just that it's usually for people who are either tired of the dating scene or can't get someone in real life. I hope things work out for you. but I suggest maybe talking to him on webcam, because then you'll know he's ACTUALLY who he says he is. Just a suggestion.0