I asked my boyfriend to make a decision between me and his wife. He had been having an affair with me for 2 years. He couldn't make a decision. So I did. I told him it was over. Why couldn't he just be up front with me and say I am staying with my my wife.I have been through way too much heartache.
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The heartache was self inflicted. You got involved with a man who was already involved with someone else. Not just involved, but vowed to spend the rest of his life with someone else. He didn't tell you upfront because he's not a good guy. You're surprised that a guy who cheats on his wife would lie to you? I'm suddenly reminded of a quote from The Hangover, "You mean, the drug dealer at the liquor store *wasn't* a good guy!?" Seems like a no brainer to me.
It's also a well known fact that guys who have affairs rarely leave their wives. Women who cheat usually do so because they're unhappy in the relationship, men cheat for the spice and sex life they may not be getting from their wives. It doesn't mean they're not in love with her. It means they wanted some tail on the side. You were that tail. And they will say anything to keep it. Playing around with a married man never ends well. He'll most likely never leave his wife, and if he does, you'll spend the rest of your relationship together paranoid that he's sneaking around behind your back too. And he probably is.