Do guys have a problem with a girl who is studious and doing PhD?

I am from an orthodox family and is studious. I always end up attracting wrong guys. People see me as the soft caring girl they only know that I am studious and call me innocent... I am sick of hearing that they 'like' me from wrong people... I can't give myself a chance to be in a good relationship... All I'm looking for decent brains so that they don't feel inferior.. I am kind of sick of being treated like this... I dont want to hear from guys u look cute and innocent. I feel embarrassed and the conversation becomes boring... I have no idea how to deal with this... I dont understand why its so difficult to find one with the common ground...

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  • Many guys don't.. but many guys do. Very intelligent/hard-working women are empowered, generally confident and independent. They have strong career prospects and don't need a guy for financial stability. Guys can find that very intimidating (and feel like they aren't 'needed') - just as women can find large, strong men intimidating. Sounds like you're just meeting guys who intellectually aren't on your level at all. Don't settle if the brains don't match for sure. Class? Library? Maybe guys where you're studying?

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  • Who cares if a guy likes / dislikes the fact that you're studious?

    Be studious. Be studious all day. Be so studious that you're leagues smarter than all the guys who would be turned off by such an awesome trait. You'll find someone who's worth your time.

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  • No. It's noble. It could end up being a relationship problem, it just depends. I don't do long term relationships so if I'm with someone for a while and they suddenly say I'm going to move three states away for two or three years for a master's degree than that is the end, once she moves away I'm not going to try and have an LDR. In that type of situation it would have ended us.

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  • Lots of girls have issues with dating and finding guys they like back. I doubt it's related to you being in school. You just want a guy that is decently smart? I'm sure there are lots of guys like that. It's hard for me to really give advice based on knowing very little of your situation. This difficulty is not exclusive to you though.

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  • Well it isn't only about the fact you are studying. I am in a law uni and meet a lot of people doing their PhD, some are fun and know how to party, some are boring and weird, so we avoid them. Maybe you shouldn't blame it on the fact that you are intelligent and try to be more interesting person overall? Maybe your brain and innocence is the only thing about you that sticks out.

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  • Where do you look for guys then. Try places that atract guys that are more emphatic/better at observation, so they will read you for what you are. Try to figure out what characteristics do you show most. Maybe you are good at hiding what you find valuable about yourself. a lot of guys, me included, are into smart independent girls/women.

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  • I mean, jokes on them cause your salary is gonna be well over theirs. I plan on becoming a dentist and most people would say "I'm not that type of person they would expect to..." Just do something unexpected and their views of you will change instantly.

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  • i am in the same position as yours lady and most girls and guys around my hood says that whenever they see me walking on the streets. they will be like, wow you hardly on the streets or anywhere. and said i should be studying and perhaps i am doing it day and night. they tend to be rude and mean by saying i have no life and i should live a little and to my understanding, i have a life, just if a different life compared to them

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  • No problem with smart girls. But ones who ONLY study and do nothing else are boring. Same with ones who are book smart but not life smart.

    Amal Clooney is a good example of a smart woman who knows how to be the glamorous socialising wife.

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  • I am also pursuing Ph. D. and i really like to have a girl who is intelligent actually intelligence attracts me.

    actually you need to fix your expectations before starting any relationship. and i am damn sure guys do like caring and innocent girls.
    ask from you do you want or not a caring husband? it is nice characteristic. rarely found i guys but you can see it in most of girls.

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  • I prefer women with a phV.. hehe...(I'll see myself out).

    Bad jokes aside have you tried looking for guys with the same interest/educational level as you are?
    Perhaps go to science congresses/Free Lectures by scientists.

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  • Just continue to do you, and eventually you'll find someone who likes the person you are and treats you the way you want to be treated. Or if you're not interested in waiting, become less picky..

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  • You need to stick with someone that comes from a similar background and his similar goals and interests. Other people pursuing phds , professional organizations, etc.

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  • Are you by any chance Asian?

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  • Humblebrag 😂

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