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Ok so, I know this is a tough situation but don't change what you where doing, keep doing your own things and live you life without including her too much.
You are right to not ask her about the other guys, this is indeed the role of a friend.
Unfortunately, you can't do much about her dates, but in my opinion, being stressed about seeing someone isn't what i'd call being happy to meet someone so, she might be (this is one of many possibilities) saying that to see your reaction or something like that.
From my own experience (I don't have much but it still counts 😂), it's pretty hard to be friend with an ex, and both party often don't want that.
What made you feel bad if it's okay to say?
What i'd do if I was in the same situation would be what I told you last time, and if I see she is moving away from me, i'd stop talking to her suddenly for a week or until she comes talk to me, always saying I was too busy to talk.