What do you use to build up the confidence to approach someone?

Not everyone is confident 100% of the time. What gives you the most confidence to approach someone?
  • Alochol
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  • Drugs
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  • Sexy clothes
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  • Good personal hygine
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  • Working out
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  • Some or all of the above
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  • Other response
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Most Helpful Guy

  • The 5 second rule... See someone you like... approach within 5 seconds. The monkey brain is in your head to protect you from all things that could harm you. Obviously approaching someone will not harm you but the hard wiring is still their from long ago. If you approached the wrong person back in the day (village times) you could lose your life. We need to overcome this false fear and just approach before your brain talks you out of it.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • The fact I WANT to approach them, that what do I have to lose by simply saying "Hi" to them or asking a question? What if I never get this opportunity again to see them or what if this person has a significant impact on my life?

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What Guys Said 65

  • Most of the confidence comes from our brain, thinking too much about things instead of jumping and trying to catch them. I'm personally really shy but I've never been scared to try something. For me, I only think about what I'll do with a lot of detail before going bed and next day I try it out and wish for the best ^^

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  • I keep reminding myself that she may be there for me by fate and that a chance does not last long and more often than not, chances won't come around twice. And at the same time I keep telling myself that there's plenty of fish in the sea, getting rejected by her is not the end of the world and doing nothing at all means dead.

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  • Alcohol always helps. Also being with some of bros did when I was more inexperienced as well. Almost like I was trying to impress my friends. Funny thing was I had lot of success when I did and I ended up hooking up a bunch of my buddies with the girl's friends. I was always the initiator lol

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  • My confidence isn't the problem. The chance that this exact girl might be one of the arse holes just requires me to assess the situation first. If someone makes a polite impression, I will have no worries whatsoever.

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  • Either there is proximity and it's just mutual and organic, or they approach me... I think approaching strangers is for creepers.

    On the other hand... I do workout to encourage creepers to creep out on me.

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  • Working out. I have always been a shy guy but three weeks ago I saw a nice girl in the gym and flirted a little bit with her. She didn´t want to give me her phonenumber but I was really happy to ask her. Since then I don´t have a problem with talking to girls anymore. I don´t even have an idea how I got so confident in that moment but it worked and now I can talk to girls and getting refused by them all the time. Hell yeah...

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  • for me i would take help from my friends to manipulate me though i won't get

    for my friends, i little bit manipulate the environment along with them to magnify their progress towards each other, til today this has proven successful.

    Also alcohol, drugs have some certain psychological sideeffects which won't help u much if u wanna go in serious relationship

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  • (In my head)
    *Ooooh! She's cute... alright, Man up! You got this dude!
    (Approaching girl)
    *right dont fk this up, be cool.
    Me: uh hi?
    (F**K!)

    In all seriousness - I'm motivated by the desire to not feel lonely. So I just take a chance and learn to adapt with the personality of whoever I talk to. Be positive, open and inviting and you will attract people to you. If people dont like it, they are the ones you filter out.

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  • Honestly.. I say the best way to get confidence is to use the 123 method.. It ensures that u will never back down in the first place.. All u gotta do is count from 3 to 1 in your mind and as soon as you hit 1, you start your approach and then the rest is up to u from there.. This method reduces fear as it gives the brain less time to think of possible failures and focus more on winning as soon as you hit number 1

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    • i tried this method on a less risky situation "Filip you bastard if you dont touch your kidneys with cold hands in 3 sec from now you will never approach that embodiment of an angel"
      i succeeded
      after counting to 350

    • What the fuck😂😂😂😂

    • Its hard 😂😂😂

  • Always had confidence but recently the working out if kind of helping. Been getting to a point where I don't recognize myself.

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What Girls Said 14

  • I don't really approach anyone, just go for it but in the back of your mind remember there's a chance they might say no and if they do then that's okay cause there's always better luck next time. I that helps absorbs the hurt of possible rejection and will not make one feel as bad.

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  • I feel better about myself when I'm in good shape. I haven't been in a long time so I feel pretty crappy and don't expect anyone to be attracted to me. I need to lose at 30 lbs to be back to my "normal" and 70 lbs to be what society would consider attractive. So I just get depressed and eat another cookie.

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  • What is the worst thing that could happen? An awkward moment with a stranger? So what? You'll probably never see him again. You have more to gain than to loose.

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  • But really the fear of if don't approach don't get nothing. Close mouth don't get feed.

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  • Alcohol, make up and flattering clothes. The alc helps the most though.

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  • I basically have no shame. I don't need confidence. I just do and say whatever the hell I want.

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  • Friends giving me encouragement and boosting my confidence by telling me how awesome i am.

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  • Nothing. I don't approach others.

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  • Stretching. I feel more relaxed lol

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