She sounded so relieved... and said she wanted the same. One time!! the first time we have sex and all of a sudden, she is in love and wants a relationship. I stalled for months... as long as i could, we were still messing around though.
One day, i decide "huh, why not give it a shot", but i was in a bad place then, bills but no income, and my budget could not take what i had planned to see if dating her would be a good thing.
I planned to have her stay at my place for the weekend, i'd cook, be a good host, cuddling and Netflix, good sex, movies... blah blah the works. So... I asked her to borrow me a bit to add to what i could spare ($50 in case someone wants a definite figure. i know i would). She says no, which is fine, but thats not all, her attitude and demeanor just went cold too, and she ignored me for like 2 weeks after. which is fine... i didn't give no fucks..
Weeks later she contacts like nothing happened... at this point, im drinking so im brutally honest, and i said EXACTLY what i planned to do when i asked to borrow from her. When she hears it, she bursts out crying, saying she didn't know, she is sorry, she begs me to try it again but... yeah... im beyond that at this point.
Many guys want a "ryde or dye" chick, and the message she conveyed just spoke to me like she wasn't... even though i know that she is the clingy type that would probably spend her last penny on her man.
So question to you GaGers... was i wrong to dump the whole notion over a single act? or do you guys feel like i didn't want to date her in the first place and am using that act as an excuse... or do i really have a point here by looking in too deep?
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I think both of you have probably jumped to an assumption not seeing where the other was fully coming from tbh...
By not making it fully clear what you were borrowing it for at the time it just looks like this guy who wasn’t that interested in a relationship with her is asking for money - potentially in exchange for agreeing to date her.
Perhaps, just as you’re re-evaluating the situation she did too. Which is why weeks later she approached you again to see where things stood and it wasn’t great.
Kind of seems that you weren’t in a place to date though