They seriously are so lazy, they rarely (if ever) initiate anything. Everything from the first conversation, to the first date, to the marriage proposal is initiated by the guy, they dont do anything. If they like a guy many women would sooner stay single and even refuse to initiate a conversation and say "hi, how are you ?", because they are too lazy and proud. Many give the excuse "I'm so scared" but that a cop-out
Why are they so lazy and proud? Why do guys have to do everything?
Most Helpful Girl
Well because we are afraid of rejection. And in our society, guys are kind of conditioned to accept rejection gracefully. Whereas girls on other hand, are the ones that get asked out since forever. So they aren't really conditioned to accept rejection.
For me, I'm really shy and I don't have much confidence tbh.
I tried to initiate stuff with the guy I like now and like 80% of times, it never came to fruition. So I am really apprehensive about initiating things because I don't really like being rejected all the time.
Most Helpful Guy
Firstly, they’re raised to be that way. So many times I heard my mother say to my sisters “if a guy doesn’t chase you, he doesn’t want you” ... which to be fair is kinda true. They are bombarded with teaching and media reinforcing that belief too.
Now, personal anecdote... I’ve never dated a girl who approached me first, because I’ve never considered them to be girlfriend material or they were simply not attractive enough. I’ve always had to go after the girls I wanted. I think this is true for all my friends at least too, (in fact some of the banter about girls that approach us is quite horrific lol) so when they say they’re scared of rejection it’s probably with good reason.
Then you have the simple fact that girls are not as strong willed as men and they can’t handle rejection, so they don’t risk it.