When I was a teenager this man who is currently the main part of this story was my first boyfriend, we were together for years anyways our relationship failed because well we were too young, he got married had 2 kids and is now separated.
I was with him during his separation, took care of him and was his friend but we ended up having sex and I got pregnant. I knew he wasn’t ready for a relationship but when he found out about me being pregnant he jumped right to abortion. I said no, he wanted me to move away with him so at least he can try.
Fast forward to now 7 months after and he said he holds a grudge against me about keeping the baby, He has become very distant with me and is no longer playful.
He told me that he is going to be there for our daughter but not all the time but he can try his best.
I don’t know what to do, I fell in love with the guy all over again but he has treated me so poorly ever since our news.
I can’t stop thinking of him and want him more, will he realize what he has lost and come back? Or is it only going to be for our daughter. Should I even have him around, he might look at her as a burden considering he has a grudge on me.
Please be nice, I am having a very hard time and I appreciate any comments you all have.
help me get out of this funk!:(
Love never dies, he realized how important I am in his life.
Next time when someone is asking for advice, maybe be nice and not put down a 7 month pregnant woman who is obviously a hard time!
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I think that holding out hope that he'll want to be with you at some point is pretty fruitless. You really need to move on from that hope because you're just going to end up disappointed. Does it happen? I'm sure it does, but it's pretty rare in the grand scheme of things and he already holds resentment towards you for keeping the baby.
On top of that, I don't really think he'll be there for the baby either. Guys like this don't tend to be the greatest fathers and given that he already feels that he was trapped, I don't think he's going to be a particularly patient father around your newborn daughter.
I'm sorry. I just don't think you should get your hopes up in this bad situation and I can greatly feel your desire to be with this guy. Just concentrate on the baby, assume you're going it alone, and just hope that you're presently surprised.