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I'd appreciate that she knew herself well enough to know that a relationship would be a bad idea. There are ways in which it would make me respect her more. I know the general perspective and feeling that a lot of guys have however is "she doesn't want a relationship... with me" and even if you say "not because of you it's because of me," they usually just think you're bullshitting them and are trying to avoid hurting their feelings... usually it's worse if you wait until after the first date because it shows that you're interested in a relationship no matter what you may say later. Dating implies desire for a relationship to most guys. If you're gonna tell a guy you aren't ready for a relationship... don't date him in the first place, or at the very least don't let him call it a date. No reason you can't be friends or hang out but if you date him and THEN tell him you aren't ready for a relationship... that's just not a good approach. Tell him before hand if you want it to go well, and even that has risks. Either way there's a chance of offending.