Would you date someone who has different political views than you?

I personally wouldn't... it'd be too much for me.
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  • If the person is an extremist, radical, militant, etc. I would not date them even if we were on the same side side of the political aisle. Assuming that they are not extreme in their beliefs, I would date (and in fact I have dated) someone who is politically liberal. Most of us conservatives are actually very tolerant of those who disagree with us.

    I recently had a lady break up with me because she learned that I am a conservative. We had spent at least 20 hours together, she knew many good things about me, and she had previously thought that we had a good potential together, but the "conservative" label trumped her own knowledge of me. To me, that is incomprehensible and horribly intolerant.

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    • And sadly, extremely Liberal.

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    • "horribly intolerant"? Grow up and stop being a snowflake.

      regards, a non-liberal.

    • @Omega_brie I am the antithesis of a snowflake. I said that she is very intolerant. I did not say that she upset me so much that I needed to go get free hot chocolate and hugs.

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  • I date someone who has different political views than me, because I don't exactly have any at all, and let me tell you - it can be incredibly overwhelming.

    Something happens that he doesn't agree with politically? Instantly fired up and goes on a rant about it for the next 10-20 minutes. Something great happens? He's elated for the next 10-20 minutes, possibly up to next week, even! Now that Trump is in office I hear it from his mouth a couple times a week, especially when he's talking to his buddy.

    So would I date anyone who has different political views than me? Never again, I'm tolerating my boyfriend because it isn't overbearing and he doesn't shove it on me.

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  • Yeah, I would as long as we get along fine then what’s the issue? Though I do want to say that couples with a fairly significant difference in viewpoints probably will never get along by virtue of them disagreeing on almost everything, especially when it comes down to vote for president of the US. Most people are somewhere in the middle and reasonable when it comes to political issues, I know I am. For some issues I’m almost unmoving and nothing will change that, like gun rights for example.

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  • No. And in all honesty, one shouldn't.
    Look, you should NOT shut out family because their politics are different. And you should NOT shut out friends or potential friends because politics are different.
    But if you are in a romantic relationship with someone, the two of you need a certain level of compatibility, of commonality, in order to help make your relationship successful. You shouldn't look for a carbon copy of yourself, obviously. Diversity in your personalities is vital; you complete each other, so where one is weak, the other can be strong, making you better together.
    But where politics is concerned, your very approach on what it means to have a real relationship, the goals, and how to get there, the obstacles, and how to overcome them, could be wildly different.

    I'm sure some people could make it work. But i'd suggest that unless you can agree on more than you disagree on (say, you generally can see eye-to-eye on at least 2/3rds of issues you care about), the chances of the relationship going strong are not good.

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  • That would depend.

    If we can have peaceful, civilized political discourses and we both recognize mutual love of country and that each other's policies are just a different means to the same end (the ultimate betterment of the nation) based on different views, emphases, and concerns… sure! Why not!
    If we can truly want to understand each other and find lasting, effective solutions leading to peace (within and without) prosperity, that would be awesome.

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  • i dont care for political views because in fact there shouldn´t be any politics. Yes, my proposal is anarchy, but not a chaotic anarchy, more like people with similar views forming small communities everywhere and organizing themselves according to their own majoritary view.

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  • Depends on the source of their views. It is possible do respectfully disagree about things like the proper means and level of taxation, socialized medicine, environmental regulations, and other policy issues. These days in the US, conservatism has devolved into Christian dominionism, fanatical opposition to abortion, homophobia, and disregard of established science like evolution and the causes of global warming. So no, I couldn't date someone holding those beliefs.

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  • Depends. Some people can have polite discussions. Others get over the top angry if someone disagrees with random crap they themselves did not believe 2 days ago but their favorite talking head told them what to think so now it’s THE LAW. Lol

    If she’s the angry type... not so interested.

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  • No, politics relys far too much on name calling and character attacks for a bi-partisan relationship to foster any respect or love. I can't date or even befriend someone who will call me a nazi just for pursuing my honest view of what is right and true.

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  • Yes i could. And i would.. And i have especially if I really like the person like I just smiled at your question when I read that you said you couldn't and you right there if I ever have just let you I would just because you said that because I see how much passion you have towards the things that you believe in so I believe that you're very special person the desire passion commitment values ethics and morals very good question

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  • depends on compatability if beleifs. i wouldn't for example date a nazi chick since i beleive the character of a person has nothing to do with their skin tone.

    but i could be with someone who beleived something different about the afterlife for example, because its personal beleif that doesn't affect anyone else.

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  • No, I don't think I would.

    It's one more thing to go wrong in a relationship, and I have nationality, first language, culture and all of that kind of stuff already going on, without throwing politics and religion into the mix.

    Plus, as a rule, Liberals tend to be intolerant of other political beliefs, so I don't think me dating a Liberal or a leftist would work out long term.

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What Girls Said 78

  • If completely different, no. But we don't have to see eye to eye on everything. I'm not really political, but our values need to be similar.

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  • It depends on how different their views are and how adamant they are on those views.

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  • Yes, it isn't important to me.

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    • The political views someone holds are an extension of what they think is right and wrong. Not only is that important for a couple, but it is important for the sake of their kids. Parents cannot raise children with strong, solid morals if they do not agree on them.

  • If they are very interested in politics and it’s a big part of their lives, then no. It would be too much clashing 24/7. However, even if politics weren’t huge to them but they voted for Trump and support him, I would absolutely never date them. EVER. Although everyone says “politics are just politics” or “they’re just personal opinions”, someone’s political views and who they choose to rally behind says a lot about their character and who they are as a person.

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    • You seem to be having some contradictions in your opinion.
      You say you don't date someone if they are very interested in politics while having a political view but at the same time you don't want to date someone even if they don't have strong opinions but are a trump voter. So essentially you are saying that you just flatout won't date someone with different political views altogether.
      You are correct in saying that someone's political views can say a lot about them, but that does mean you need a clear view of there views first. The media spreads so much garbage that i doubt you know why people even support trump to begin with, neither did i as someone outside of the country but when one of my online friends explained to me why he voted for him i could only agree since Trump did have the best monetary policy out of all the candidates, is much less corrupt then Hillary and puts there own nation first. Trump supporters are so diverse that you can't put them all in the same place.

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    • @sawno Well let’s say that you live in America. There is still a high chance that the number of Trump supporters in your area wouldn’t even be comparable the number in mine. Because of this, most of the people I know are Trump supporters. I don’t judge all of them based on their support, I judge them based on their justifications of his actions and their reasons for supporting him. And many of the supporters I’ve listened to are very educated on political matters. I head a political organization in my region where we get together and discuss political issues to possibly bring to our local legislators and only people who actually care and know what they’re talking about attend the meetings. So no, I’m not just judging everyone who supports him based on the simple fact that they support them.

    • Then why dont you date them by default?

  • I currently am. We either don't talk about it, or have civil discussions. We don't try to change each other's minds, we explain why we feel the way we feel and what our reasoning is. It's not very hard

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  • Personally I dont have any political views i dont understand it there for i dont try to. My oh understands it and will make his vote accordingly. When the uk had to vote for brexit I did eenny meeny miny mo on it because I just don't care and I dont understand it. My oh thought this was highly funny but didn't judge me on it.

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  • It would depend on how political the person was. I am not. I follow just enough that I know what is going on around me and that's it so I wouldn't want to date someone who was crazy about them.

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  • Most of the times political views accompany a specific lifestyle, way of living and vice versa. So it depends on how much different are the political views from mine.
    Some times you can just have sex with someone with different political views (having a relationship it would be more different) but if you hate this political party I don't think that you would like to make him reach orgasm.

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  • I mean as long as you're not calling for mass genocide there's not much that could put me off when it comes to opposing political opinions lol

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  • Date, yes
    Marry... Probably not.

    And while I'm dating the person I would like to know their opinions and also why they think what they do to understand their take.
    If it makes no sense to me then we are probably only going to argue over it each time we talk

    So either I move on or just not bring politics up ever again... hmm !

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