Would you date someone who has different political views than you?

I personally wouldn't... it'd be too much for me.
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  • If the person is an extremist, radical, militant, etc. I would not date them even if we were on the same side side of the political aisle. Assuming that they are not extreme in their beliefs, I would date (and in fact I have dated) someone who is politically liberal. Most of us conservatives are actually very tolerant of those who disagree with us.

    I recently had a lady break up with me because she learned that I am a conservative. We had spent at least 20 hours together, she knew many good things about me, and she had previously thought that we had a good potential together, but the "conservative" label trumped her own knowledge of me. To me, that is incomprehensible and horribly intolerant.

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    • And sadly, extremely Liberal.

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    • "horribly intolerant"? Grow up and stop being a snowflake.

      regards, a non-liberal.

    • @Omega_brie I am the antithesis of a snowflake. I said that she is very intolerant. I did not say that she upset me so much that I needed to go get free hot chocolate and hugs.

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  • I date someone who has different political views than me, because I don't exactly have any at all, and let me tell you - it can be incredibly overwhelming.

    Something happens that he doesn't agree with politically? Instantly fired up and goes on a rant about it for the next 10-20 minutes. Something great happens? He's elated for the next 10-20 minutes, possibly up to next week, even! Now that Trump is in office I hear it from his mouth a couple times a week, especially when he's talking to his buddy.

    So would I date anyone who has different political views than me? Never again, I'm tolerating my boyfriend because it isn't overbearing and he doesn't shove it on me.

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  • Yeah, I would as long as we get along fine then what’s the issue? Though I do want to say that couples with a fairly significant difference in viewpoints probably will never get along by virtue of them disagreeing on almost everything, especially when it comes down to vote for president of the US. Most people are somewhere in the middle and reasonable when it comes to political issues, I know I am. For some issues I’m almost unmoving and nothing will change that, like gun rights for example.

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  • No. And in all honesty, one shouldn't.
    Look, you should NOT shut out family because their politics are different. And you should NOT shut out friends or potential friends because politics are different.
    But if you are in a romantic relationship with someone, the two of you need a certain level of compatibility, of commonality, in order to help make your relationship successful. You shouldn't look for a carbon copy of yourself, obviously. Diversity in your personalities is vital; you complete each other, so where one is weak, the other can be strong, making you better together.
    But where politics is concerned, your very approach on what it means to have a real relationship, the goals, and how to get there, the obstacles, and how to overcome them, could be wildly different.

    I'm sure some people could make it work. But i'd suggest that unless you can agree on more than you disagree on (say, you generally can see eye-to-eye on at least 2/3rds of issues you care about), the chances of the relationship going strong are not good.

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  • i dont care for political views because in fact there shouldn´t be any politics. Yes, my proposal is anarchy, but not a chaotic anarchy, more like people with similar views forming small communities everywhere and organizing themselves according to their own majoritary view.

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  • Depends on the source of their views. It is possible do respectfully disagree about things like the proper means and level of taxation, socialized medicine, environmental regulations, and other policy issues. These days in the US, conservatism has devolved into Christian dominionism, fanatical opposition to abortion, homophobia, and disregard of established science like evolution and the causes of global warming. So no, I couldn't date someone holding those beliefs.

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  • Depends. Some people can have polite discussions. Others get over the top angry if someone disagrees with random crap they themselves did not believe 2 days ago but their favorite talking head told them what to think so now it’s THE LAW. Lol

    If she’s the angry type... not so interested.

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  • That would depend.

    If we can have peaceful, civilized political discourses and we both recognize mutual love of country and that each other's policies are just a different means to the same end (the ultimate betterment of the nation) based on different views, emphases, and concerns… sure! Why not!
    If we can truly want to understand each other and find lasting, effective solutions leading to peace (within and without) prosperity, that would be awesome.

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  • No, politics relys far too much on name calling and character attacks for a bi-partisan relationship to foster any respect or love. I can't date or even befriend someone who will call me a nazi just for pursuing my honest view of what is right and true.

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  • Yes i could. And i would.. And i have especially if I really like the person like I just smiled at your question when I read that you said you couldn't and you right there if I ever have just let you I would just because you said that because I see how much passion you have towards the things that you believe in so I believe that you're very special person the desire passion commitment values ethics and morals very good question

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  • depends on compatability if beleifs. i wouldn't for example date a nazi chick since i beleive the character of a person has nothing to do with their skin tone.

    but i could be with someone who beleived something different about the afterlife for example, because its personal beleif that doesn't affect anyone else.

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  • No, I don't think I would.

    It's one more thing to go wrong in a relationship, and I have nationality, first language, culture and all of that kind of stuff already going on, without throwing politics and religion into the mix.

    Plus, as a rule, Liberals tend to be intolerant of other political beliefs, so I don't think me dating a Liberal or a leftist would work out long term.

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  • I wouldn't nessisarily be worried about their political views per se. I'd be more worried about what ideologies that person carries to result in such a political standpoint. Their perspective/ideals could be quite different from yours, possibly to the point where it makes it difficult to get along in the long run

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  • Where can you find a girl who dosent have the same delicate social political climate nowadays?
    No. They're always after overprotection and comfort.
    Just that small political difference will end in disaster for the couple
    Just have sex and when the views clash separate

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  • It depends on how drastic the differences are. I can't raise kids with someone if we can't even agree on how to raise them. There are more specific things too, like abortion. There are serious differences between political and philosophical thought that can and should be reconciled with each other as people, but raising a family is hard enough when the parents are already on the same page

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  • Most of the women I date are under 25, and mostly 19 to 23.

    What I find is that few young people really have no clue about politics. They think they do, but they are simply acting on ignorance.

    One 19 year old I met said, "I am a Socialist". After talking for four hours and my asking her questions, she discovered, no, she is the polar opposite, she is a libertarian. She was so amazed at how much she thought she knew, but didn't.

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    • Funny, you're stuck with cold war era politics. You're a bit too pretentious.

    • @evilucario
      Actually I am stuck with the politics of the late 18th Century America, you know, the ideas of minimal government and maximum freedom bring maximum prosperity.

      You aren't old enough to know better.

    • You are absolutely correct

  • Yes, differing views makes for a balanced approach to life problems. And perspectives that you never knew we're out there... If it comes to values no, but this post said specifically political views... So yeah... We need to act like adults and have civilized conversation...

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  • No. The political views someone holds are an extension of what they think is right and wrong. I want my companion to be someone who holds the same values and morals I do. Not only is that important for a couple, but it is important for the sake of their kids. Parents cannot raise children with strong, solid morals if they do not agree on them.

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    • The question is if your views and morals are right or not.

    • But the children should be free to form their own beliefs. There are many kids who have racist parents but the kids dont have racist beliefs or that they just have different beliefs from their parents. Children's beliefs are not an extension of parent's beliefs and should not be. Of course the expiriences make us form personality, beliefs but fortunately or unfortunately we dont get them only from parents.
      But I agree that it is easier for parents to raise a child if they have the same beliefs about what is good, bad etc but this doesn't mean that the child has to follow the same beliefs.

  • If the other person shares his political views and they appear to be in contrast with yours then it won't mean that he or she can't be a compatible or can't be a good person to be in relationship with. It can be annoying during election time but I guess it shouldn't bother much. Topics like politics always create some kind of conflict and must be avoided during first dates. I know a friend whose views contrast with his girlfriend and they are doing pretty well.

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  • It depends. If she has different views but is still sane and ethical about it, just having a different economic philosophy than me, it'd be okay with me. I dated a Trump supporter, we just didn't discuss politics. Actually two Trump supporting women, we didn't really make an issue out of it.

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  • I will and currently is dating one.
    We support different people - but we don't often discuss politics so it's ok.
    When we do, we tend to keep an open mind on things - and sometimes it ends with just agreeing to disagree, then back to normal life.

    I mean, there's tons to life than discussing/arguing about politics. What matters is knowing when to just settle on agreeing to disagreeing.

    However - if I'm running for a position, then no. LOL.
    But I'm not.

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  • in answering this i think of the iconic 80's sitcom Family Ties and the Michael J Fox character, Alex P Keaton. Who was a full on conservative.

    The two relationships he had in the show were with ladies from the Liberal Arts. The first to a dancer. It can happen and be very successful

    The key is finding connection on different levels

    Of course, if it is polar extremes like a Jewish person and a Neo-Nazi, naf

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  • If completely different, no. But we don't have to see eye to eye on everything. I'm not really political, but our values need to be similar.

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  • It depends on how different their views are and how adamant they are on those views.

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  • Yes, it isn't important to me.

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    • The political views someone holds are an extension of what they think is right and wrong. Not only is that important for a couple, but it is important for the sake of their kids. Parents cannot raise children with strong, solid morals if they do not agree on them.

  • If they are very interested in politics and it’s a big part of their lives, then no. It would be too much clashing 24/7. However, even if politics weren’t huge to them but they voted for Trump and support him, I would absolutely never date them. EVER. Although everyone says “politics are just politics” or “they’re just personal opinions”, someone’s political views and who they choose to rally behind says a lot about their character and who they are as a person.

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    • You seem to be having some contradictions in your opinion.
      You say you don't date someone if they are very interested in politics while having a political view but at the same time you don't want to date someone even if they don't have strong opinions but are a trump voter. So essentially you are saying that you just flatout won't date someone with different political views altogether.
      You are correct in saying that someone's political views can say a lot about them, but that does mean you need a clear view of there views first. The media spreads so much garbage that i doubt you know why people even support trump to begin with, neither did i as someone outside of the country but when one of my online friends explained to me why he voted for him i could only agree since Trump did have the best monetary policy out of all the candidates, is much less corrupt then Hillary and puts there own nation first. Trump supporters are so diverse that you can't put them all in the same place.

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    • @sawno Well let’s say that you live in America. There is still a high chance that the number of Trump supporters in your area wouldn’t even be comparable the number in mine. Because of this, most of the people I know are Trump supporters. I don’t judge all of them based on their support, I judge them based on their justifications of his actions and their reasons for supporting him. And many of the supporters I’ve listened to are very educated on political matters. I head a political organization in my region where we get together and discuss political issues to possibly bring to our local legislators and only people who actually care and know what they’re talking about attend the meetings. So no, I’m not just judging everyone who supports him based on the simple fact that they support them.

    • Then why dont you date them by default?

  • I currently am. We either don't talk about it, or have civil discussions. We don't try to change each other's minds, we explain why we feel the way we feel and what our reasoning is. It's not very hard

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  • Personally I dont have any political views i dont understand it there for i dont try to. My oh understands it and will make his vote accordingly. When the uk had to vote for brexit I did eenny meeny miny mo on it because I just don't care and I dont understand it. My oh thought this was highly funny but didn't judge me on it.

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  • It would depend on how political the person was. I am not. I follow just enough that I know what is going on around me and that's it so I wouldn't want to date someone who was crazy about them.

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  • Most of the times political views accompany a specific lifestyle, way of living and vice versa. So it depends on how much different are the political views from mine.
    Some times you can just have sex with someone with different political views (having a relationship it would be more different) but if you hate this political party I don't think that you would like to make him reach orgasm.

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  • I mean as long as you're not calling for mass genocide there's not much that could put me off when it comes to opposing political opinions lol

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  • Date, yes
    Marry... Probably not.

    And while I'm dating the person I would like to know their opinions and also why they think what they do to understand their take.
    If it makes no sense to me then we are probably only going to argue over it each time we talk

    So either I move on or just not bring politics up ever again... hmm !

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  • Yeah, I feel like as adults both parties should be mature enough to *potentially* disagree on different issues and still be respectful towards each other about their opinions.

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  • My fiance voted one way in the election and I voted another. We're still getting married.

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    • Between Hillay and Trump there is no significant political difference.

  • It would depend on the issues that differ. There are some issues I am more flexible in opinion on that so long as the core ones I value align I would at least attempt to make it work

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  • Totally I think it gives a different perspective... as long as they made good debates and had sound arguments...

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  • I'm pretty far to one side of the spectrum. They could definitely be in the middle. I don't see me being able to handle them long term if they're too far left though.

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  • I would like conversations we'd have every day. He'd keep me on my toes and thinking instead of letting me assume that every view I have is okay.

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  • I have, before. Sometimes its best to set boundaries if you are both very adamant about certain issues. He and I agreed to never discuss certain issues.

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  • Depends on how different. I consider myself a liberal democrat. I could date someone with slightly different views, but I wouldn't wanna be with someone who votes for the communists.

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  • Lol.. I dont give a shit about politics... so I certainly would date a guy with different political views... There are lot more other important views and habits to consider before dating a guy😂

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  • I do lol. If you both respect each other and your opinions, it isn't that hard to do.

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