I'm not funny by any means, in fact I make really cringeworthy puns. I'm not an awful person but I'm not super nice and I'll make fun of people for the stupid things they do.
I am not looking for a hookup (heck I'm still a virgin at 25), my friends give me shit for it, but it's not that I'm not interested in sex, I just haven't found someone whom I've wanted to have sex with. I definitely need to get to know them beforehand.
I've only ever had one girlfriend, and we didn't break up on bad terms. I also seem to have more female friends than most of my guy friends do.
I don't take initiative in relationships very often (I probably won't end up going in for a kiss at the end of a date). That being said, I haven't kissed a girl either (No, not even my ex-girlfriend).
In all but one case, the girls I've asked out have rejected me. I've had no luck with Tinder, Bumble, etc. either.
I have a well paying career and am well educated and we'll spoken, especially for an immigrant in the United States.
Now that I've listed out all my flaws, can someone tell me what they think my problem is? Why don't the girls whom I like, like me back?
Most Helpful Girl
First - you sound like a great guy.
Second - while it’s great you don’t want to force yourself on women (women everywhere love that), taking a little initiative is sexy as hell. You don’t have to force a kiss, or anything else, but women give pretty clear nonverbal clues they want to be kissed. Licking lips, dilated pupils, looking at you expectantly, moving their head closer to you, etc.
Not even trying sends out the “I don’t find you attractive” signal. And few women are going to say “are you going to kiss me or what”. Unless you find a Dom, in which case you’ll be all set.1