I'm about 198 pounds (But also 5ft7/5ft8). I realize I am overweight, but live a relatively healthy life, but due to some poor life choices in the past I have to take meds that influence my weight a lot.
I never really approached guys due to this. Or never as more than anything as friends.
The idea of signing up to a dating site or anything seems insane too because of my weight.
I feel like my weight automatically puts me outside of the 'dateable' zone and will never flirt or let people know i like a guy because I immediately feel out of their league.
Obviously my experience kind of lines up with this but sometimes I wonder if this isn't just self fulfilling prophecy...
Most Helpful Guy
100% a self fulfilling prophecy, you think "I can't attract a guy" so you don't try, so you don't attract a guy and it reinforces the thought that you can't.
Now as for how important weight is, it depends on the guy. For me, it's quite important, because I live a healthy lifestyle, I avoid all processed sugar (I haven't had a fizzy drink/a soda in over a year, I don't eat chocolate etc). I workout for at least an hour every day and I stay as active as I can. So I personally couldn't have a girlfriend that was overweight because it would imply our goal/needs aren't aligned.
That being said, if you don't like your body, you can always change, just require some research and a bit of will power :) but no matter what, be happy and confident in who you are and I'm sure a guy will love you for who you are
Most Helpful Girl
For me if she has confidence.