Would it be weird if I approached him?

I’ve been shy my whole life and have never approached anyone I was ever attracted to. I’ve also never had a boyfriend and I’m 22! Most likely due to the fact I used to be overweight so I understand that not many people would find me attractive. It seems now that I’ve lost the weight I still have low self esteem issues that I kinda thought would just magically go away, and on top of that it’s always been hard for me to open up to people. Anyways, I’ve always thought one of my coworkers was cute and I was always too nervous to even say hi and introduce myself. Recently I was in a car accident and nearly died so when I went to work that same day I finally grew a pair and introduced myself (I know it’s not the biggest step, but it’s a start). He happened to be walking by and he was carrying some stuff. I smiled and said hi and then he smiled and said hi, then he dropped all the things he was holding and I helped him pick up his stuff while I introduced myself and then we talked for about five minutes before he had to clock out. He seemed kinda shy but it was probably just all in my head. Anyways, now that I’ve made my existence known I kinda wanna ask him out? Would that be too forward? I don’t want to come off as weird. I don’t even know if he has a girlfriend so I definitely don’t want to approach him if he isn’t single. How can I find out he’s single in a subtle way? Also, I kinda feel like if he hasn’t approached me in the past he probably just isn’t into me?

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  • Life favors those who are bold enough to try. Just ask the guy out. If his response is "I have a girlfriend," or something other than yes, don't let it show that it bothers you. Only the lowest scum would intentionally hurt someone that just stroked their ego by asking them out. That said, you'll likely catch him off guard, so whatever comes out initially will probably be less than tactful in any case. It should quickly be followed up with some sort of explanation though. And if he is scum then you're better off with him having said no.

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  • Strike up a conversation with him, and find out from there. Also, don't do subtle, guys are oblivious

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    • Thank you I’ll try when I see him again.

  • You'd be surprised how many shy guys exist on this earth. I have had a countless amount of girlfriends and yet to this day, the thought of approaching a pretty girl at a bar that I find even remotely attractive honestly scares the crap out of me due to the fear of being rejected or looking like a chump which is normal I think. Still doesn't change the fact however.

    Try going to an office function in a social setting such as a Christmas party and eventually talking to him and things should open up from there. Good luck!

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  • get his phone number and chat with him
    you'll be more open in chatting
    you can ask him anything you want without feeling shy

    good luck ^_^

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  • Congrats on your first question! *Opens champagne* wooohoo

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  • Talk to him. Simple

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  • No it will not weird if you'll approach him

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  • Good Luck.

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  • me personally I always hated this one-sided gender role, norm.

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