Do I have real reason for concern or am I overthinking it? What should I do?

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Hey, so, I love my boyfriend but sometimes he does things that concern me a little bit. I feel like I am probably just being over sensitive or jealous or scared because of never really having a constant, real, love in my life so maybe I am wrong? Anyway, for example, I asked him once why he picks a female character instead of a male one, just curiously, and he said "if I am gonna look at something for 8 hours or whatever I'd rather look at a woman." And I felt a little hurt by that since it's not like the girl looks like me or anything but I just asked, "Why?" And he got a little frustrated and said, "I don't know I just do." And I said, "But why do you want to look at another woman like that?" And I was calm because I was still hurt. And he got more frustrated and said, "Idk! I was just joking okay?" And I said it didn't sound like it and he said how I should of course know he was joking and he was pretty upset. Another time at work some girl asked if she could stay at his house, implying she would do things with him, and he said, "No, I don't think my girlfriend would like that." Maybe I am wrong but isn't that something you say when you really mean, yeah you're hot but sadly my girlfriend would kill me if I did that so no. I know what happened because he told me. If it were me I would never have said it like that you know? I'd be like, "I'm sorry, I'm not interested." And probably mention I have a boyfriend as well but the main point being I'm not interested, period. And after he said my girlfriend wouldn't like it she said, "Well she doesn't have to know." And he was just like flustered saying how no he didn't want to and how I would find out anyway or something. I know guys can be oblivious sometimes but come on! That isn't like... something you say... Am I crazy? I don't feel safe wih him... like he doesn't reassure me right away unless I ask him to. He does other nice things don't get me wrong, but are things like this red flags? Am I overthinking?
Do I have real reason for concern or am I overthinking it? What should I do?
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