We went on our first date and it was great, we kept hanging out and doing stuff together, eventually he popped the question whether we are a couple. Afraid of rushing, I said I wanted more time. A few more weeks passed and everything the same, acting sweet and nice, constant contact. He popped the question again (because I told him the day I'd give him the answer), and again asked for more time.
Stress and life came into play, and we hung out the next day, but I texted him saying I valued our friendship and didn't want anything to be ruined (I was under tons of stress with family). He poured his heart out and told me no matter what, he would work around my schedule and be there for me every step of the way. After this again I asked for more time (basically all of winter break on college).
Things were okay again, still nice and sweet and funny and supportive, but he called me his "girlfriend" and I corrected saying we weren't yet. He seemed not upset, but just confused, I just didn't want to rush into it all. Now he's slowly backing off, and I just wanted to make sure he wasn't in love with his ex still (he really liked her), and I also had another guy that I didn't know what to do about. I don't want to jump into a relationship before separating over winter break, but I don't think he will wait. Any thoughts?
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I lost interest just reading you question...
Seriously - he has asked you several times and each time he has been rejected. He is being nice about it and treating you well, and yet you still keep saying that you do not want him. From his point of view it is time to move on.
If you want him, you need to "show some leg" otherwise he will conclude you are not interested.