Most Helpful Girl
You need to know when to stand down as well as when to stand up for yourself. Aggressive people only know the latter.
Most Helpful Guy
Being assertive without angering someone requires the use of information, eye to contact for men, explanation why this is what will work for you and that you are willing to do this or that. You never ask for the answer or agreement at the beginning. You let them make the decision to submit or agree on their own. Being assertive also means that you are proactive. You are part of the conversation. There is no sitting back and then complaining or being aggressive after the issue has been decided. You must offer up to act to make your assertions work. Don't talk like a baby, you will be treated as one. Speak clearly with clear thoughts. No attitudes or tone of speech that offends. Remember being assertive is not a passive business. You must be willing to do.