How to be assertive rather than aggressive?


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  • You need to know when to stand down as well as when to stand up for yourself. Aggressive people only know the latter.

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  • Being assertive without angering someone requires the use of information, eye to contact for men, explanation why this is what will work for you and that you are willing to do this or that. You never ask for the answer or agreement at the beginning. You let them make the decision to submit or agree on their own. Being assertive also means that you are proactive. You are part of the conversation. There is no sitting back and then complaining or being aggressive after the issue has been decided. You must offer up to act to make your assertions work. Don't talk like a baby, you will be treated as one. Speak clearly with clear thoughts. No attitudes or tone of speech that offends. Remember being assertive is not a passive business. You must be willing to do.

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What Girls Said 2

  • Say how u feel don't take shit and make ur opinions clear but don't hit anyone or punch anything

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    • What if your opinions always make people cry?

    • @Arbalest u can't be honest with everyone there pple who can take it but for those who can't try saying it a nice way
      U could say u look ugly AF and ur eyes r all puffy
      But its way way better to say using some make up under ur eyes will make them pop up and make u prettier
      Unless the person u r addressing is an asshole try to be nice

  • Don’t be malevelont, just communicate your feelings. Don’t be afraid to create tension.

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What Guys Said 17

  • Look up the definitions, you should notice aggression has an emotional attachment to assertiveness. Remove emotion from the equation and the things you say will seem more calm, more fair and equitable.

    Assertiveness is saying, " I need you to follow my directions precisely." Without attitude, without anger.

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  • Confidence carrys assertiveness.

    It all depends on the situation, if your talking about something you know well, you should be confident that your opinion is correct, and in turn that will come across as assertive.

    Assertiveness also means no "erm", "you know" and other pauses which comes across badly.

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  • Assertiveness is stating what you want and not being pushed around, but drawing the line at respecting other people's wishes. Like if you've spent the last 3 hours having an incredible date with your gorgeous counterpart, and she's rubbing your thigh in the car, don't be afraid to tell her you want to have sex with her. But, if you do have sex, make sure she knows that she's in control, and that you would never force her to do anything she wasn't comfortable doing.

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  • Assertive is stating your needs and having them taken into consideration and making sure that others' needs are being recognized. Aggressive is just taking things to fill your needs or making demands with no regard to others. Passive (Aggressive) is not making your needs known until you're at the breaking point.

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  • Don’t let your emotions affect what you say, or how you say it. Stay calm and composed, but don’t let someone interrupt what you have to say - if someone talks over you, don’t stop talking, carry on.

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  • Its all in the art of communication. Its how you say something that can differ from assertive and aggression

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  • Assertive is asking for what you want and knowing when to compromise. Being aggressive is confronting people even when the answer goes against what you want.

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  • Don't get sweet talked into doing something you don't want to. Set your personal boundaries and never apologise for having them.

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  • They're the same thing. What you need to do is be aggressive without being hostile, and that is self explanatory.

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  • Just put a bit of bass in your voice and speak your mind but dont swear because that is aggression and be aware of your bodies movent too

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  • Maintain a proper sense of civility while clearly and diligently pursuing your aims.

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  • Rather than using an AK47 when demanding things use a Knife to Assert things

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  • Just be confident and use passive aggressive statements

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  • In general or with women?

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    • With women

    • What's it worth to ya? Can't be giving away trade secrets. Lol simple explanation would be have a spine but don't be an assholes and a demanding douche. If you are having to ask you are not coming from a strong position.

  • Don't let emotion determine your interactions.

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  • More so having confidence than being an asshole

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  • Holding a baseball bat works for me...

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