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I realize that feelings aren't a choice... we feel how we feel. So I can't really fault you for feeling the way you do.
BUT your thoughts ARE your choice. You CHOOSE to measure yourself against others, which is the worst way to live possible.
When you measure yourself against everyone else it leaves you a victim of your circumstances, because others will ALWAYS be better and worse than you. So from the ground running you're going to be in a losing situation. When you have 8 billion other people on this earth there's always going to be prettier girls, smarter people, and others more liked.
Does this make sense? You will have to literally be the best looking women in the entire world before you're able to not worry about comparing yourself to others, because there's ALWAYS going to be others better than you.
This is why making comparisons is illogical and worse, it's harmful to your self esteem and well being.
But you're probably young so you haven't learned this yet.
So here's a life hack for you... there's two ways we can live... in comparison to others OR through introspection and acceptance.
We can either look at everyone else and try to live up to what they're doing (chasing attention and approval, leaving us disappointed, depressed and sad)
We can instead love and accept ourselves AS WE ALREADY ARE and then compare the world to our own inner views (always feel accepted, loved and happy,)
See the difference?
We can't live without others, but we can live without needing to be like others, or needing to be liked by others.
NEXT... pay better attention to the people who get hit on. I can promise you that these people aren't shy. They're social.
Being "shy" is actually an excuse... it's an issue of the ego.
When an ego is weak and fragile and insecure it panics and convinces us to avoid others. This ego is so scared of being questioned or challenged it fools us into avoiding all people, as a way of maintaining self worth.
But if instead you don't give a shit what people think, and you just be YOU, then it's EASY to be social, and to have fun.
And being social is just a practiced skill.
To learn how to pick up women I first had to practice making small talk with all strangers when out shopping. Just making small talk was enough to help me escape my shyness and embrace my personal power.
Being SOCIAL is what attracts men.