Why do people hate gold diggers so much?

Not a gold digger myself since I come from an affluent family, but I'm just curious to why a lot of guys hate them. Going after a man for money is no different than going after a woman for sex. Sugar daddies are no more innocent than sugar babies/call girls/strippers are.
I notice that a lot of people tend to tell these gold diggers to "get a job", but sometimes regardless of how hard you work, you just can't afford the things you want. Very few jobs are able to provide a stable income that would enable someone to live a comfortable lifestyle. So they have to get it somehow. Especially if they lack the skills or support necessary in order to succeed.
In the end, it's a mutually beneficial relationship. You're getting this one specific girl you want and she's getting the money. So both parties are getting rewarded and no one is getting hurt.

If you don't want to get seriously involved with a gold digger, there's nothing wrong with that, but I think it's a double standard that guys are applauded for using girls for sex, while girls are humiliated when they use men for money.

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  • If a guy wanted sex and had the intention to spend money on it... quite frankly a prostitute is cheaper than a girlfriend that wants you to buy them stuff. No one likes a manipulator.

    Also never assume a guy just wants sex... many do but not all. The ones who don't genuinely want a relationship with a girl who likes them not a girl who doesn't care about them. There's no security in that relationship. If the guy runs out of money... she leaves. I don't want that. I dunno does that make sense.

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    • A prostitute doesn't offer the same kind of emotional stimulation and ability the way a girlfriend would.

    • *availability

    • Perhaps so... but who would want a girlfriend that doesn't care for/about them? That's what gold digger implies. One who cares about money and your only value as a boyfriend to them rests in how much money you possess, and willingness to spend said money on them. They aren't in the relationship for you even if you're in it for them, and so you're never in it for them because they aren't worth being in it in the first place... That's why people hate gold diggers. They don't give anything to the relationship that can't be found LITERALLY ANYWHERE ELSE!! xD

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  • a lot of people hate gold diggers, because ideally you want to be in a relationship for love and if there's wealth then thats just the icing on top of the cake. Obviously sugar daddy's and baby relationships are different because there's no actual relationship just transaction/sex based, people get uncomfortable calling themselves prostitutes lol. I guess, BUT there is a huge difference if you're dating someone and they just love spoiling you, and you do not feel like you have to do anything in return because of that and vice versa, because you GENUINELY want to. Ofcourse there's lots of people that want to be taken care of. If it works for others then so be it but understand exactly what type of "relationship" you're in and dont try to sugar coat it, just be real.

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What Guys Said 19

  • Going after money vs sex, I agree both are wrong, but they're not comparable in my opinion. Sex is sex, and while the woman might feel emotional effects, financial effects are very different!! I know personally, I have no trouble spending my own money, I don't need someone else helping me thank you! lol

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  • Gold diggers are lazy as hell. The world doesn't owe them anything. Personally i say they're a waste of oxygen

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  • Because she isn't with me because of me, my looks, or my character. she's with me because of money. There is no emotional bond between us. Not only is she gone when she bunkered enough of my money, there also is a high possibility that she'll be cheating. She cheats with a guy she visually and emotionally likes, and gets money from the guy she's officially supposed to be.

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    • Also there is a high chance after marriage that I die in a "miraculous" way that she planned in secret (with poison or a killer) so she gets all that was mine.

  • The problem is when it becomes clear that the only thing they care about is the money, Like the moment the mine runs dry she would move on to someone else.

    I'll admit men going after women just for sex is equally as bad, but why should i want anything to do with a women who's only attracted by how much is in my bank account? I honestly wouldn't even WANT to have sex with someone like that.

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  • I don't applaud men that use women for sex.

    And to be honest in the land of opportunity there's actually lots of ways that people make money just depends on how much action you take.

    At the end of the day people are just lazy and gold digging is like a quick way to get money for the short term.

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  • Honesty is one of the driving forces in a lasting relationship. If that's already teetering right off the bat. It's bound to crash and come rumbling down eventually.

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  • Because nobody like someone who pretends to love and care about you just for selfish personal gain. The same applies for fuckboys who manipulate women for sex and drops them the moment they get it.

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  • Having sex is fine. Wanting money is fine. Being attracted based on looks is fine. Being attracted to wealth and status is fine.

    I mean people will complain about all of them but they’re fine.

    Lying and deceiving someone and making them believe you feel about them a way you don’t so they have sex with you or spend money on you is ethically on par with being an emotionally manipulative con. One who to top it off denies the person the ability to find a relationship that actually makes them happy.

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  • Sure , as long as it is mutual, and the sugar daddy is not a married person , i dont see why it is wrong

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  • Why are guys applauded for sex? Well it use to be woman waited and were quite hard to have sex with, so for a guy, that is a goal! Now, girls sleep around as guys do and even though it is easier, it is still remarkable. That doesn't mean sleeping around is good, it isn't good for either gender.

    Now, why are gold diggers bad? Because in many cases the man wants a real relationship however gold diggers seek only self gain and can use deception to get their means. It is also seen as a very disrespectful way to earn money to oneself, onesfamily, and the man involved. To me, they just didn't apply themselves, most people can be suscceful and have a job that can support themselves. Few try

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  • I think women get unfairly called a gold digger.

    First, a man usually becomes wealthy specifically for the purpose of being able to have a beautiful woman one day. So, he fully expects the woman he chooses to want a wealthy man.

    Second, the man is the one asking the woman, not the other way around. Logic says she can't be a gold digger when he is the one asking her.

    There's nothing wrong with a woman wanting to hopefully marry a wealthy man one day, so long as she really wants him for the person he is as well.

    Similarly, I'm sure women would agree that there is nothing wrong with a man wanting intercourse with a woman, so long as he really wants her for the person she is as well.

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  • Going after a woman or man just for sex or money are both bad options.

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  • I was born very very rich. When seeking women i dress down and drive my Honda. Can't stand them

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  • I think sex and money is not the same ^^ money is something disgusting and sex is not

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  • I love gold diggers because I am one myself😄

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  • Because is dishonest and pisses guys off

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  • Only the poor hate gold diggers.

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  • gold diggers... they're people we must public humiliate in society.

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  • I disagree that no one gets hurt, if she/he leaves them and takes half of their holdings or more that's just not right, hence a hard core prenup needs to be in effect, if she/he won't sign it kick them to the curb.
    I would fully expect have to sign a prenup if I were dating a rich woman.

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What Girls Said 2

  • because money unlike sex isn't free xD moeny is something hard earned while sex is pretty easy to get. So when someone uses you for something youve worked for years for then yeah id hate them too

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    • Well said!

    • @GingerGuy They're both things that people value. Not everyone will have sex with just anybody and not everyone will spend on just anybody. People often lie about their intentions to get one thing or the other since sex or money isn't as free or as easy to find as you would think it is. If that was the case, guys wouldn't be hiring prostitutes or escorts.

    • Why hire anymore when we live in a hook up society anyways

  • Men hate giving women what they deserve. I've my whole life been a man's source of pleasure and happiness but they end up using me and spoiling women they make them miserable.

    To be honest, when they call you a gold digger, they just mean you think because you're good looking or good in bed he should pay for your cab, or help you with school, you should want to get him off for free.
    This is why I turned a stripper, it benefited me, then they get obsessed and expect me to pleasure them for free anyway when I do not know them. I have had other people's men come to the club to fight with me, it's some obsession they have with using good women, while they spoil the other girls but not want them, men are weird darling.

    Of course they are are sorry when it's too late, but will do it again if you forgive them, so you just look out for yourself, never let a man take advantage of you, if you're good for something, you deserve compensation, as those who don't quite often end up getting what you deserve.
    Mind I say I was hard working before I became a sex worker, but my men hated for me to be independent while they undermined me, and had me lay around like a log they use when they wanted to. All while I watch women who haven't a bit of my talents benefit from their mediocre abilities.
    These same men will then turn around and say all women do is live off of them, I've had men tell me that when he's done nothing for me, but treat me like I'm some doll without a brain. I feel bad for these girls who are being taught to submit, they are in for a good dose of mental problems.

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