So, what is it about the soft and caring nature that repels you so much? Does your new boyfriend still express his love to you traditionally or does he have his own way of showing it?
He has his own way. I don't know, I just don't like that kind of guys. I really don't know the reason😃
So what is it about good guys that made you choose them over bad guys?
Uh. What's not to choose? Good vs Bad. I think that answers itself 😂Unless you wanted a more detailed answer?
Yeah, the more details the better
Well, for a good guy, I like a guy that can listen. A guy that can keep my grounded since I have my head in the clouds at times. Someone patient and doesn't have anger issues. He knows his boundaries. A guy that will communicate. He will open up to me if he needs to. He's not afraid to feel "vulnurable". A man that is passionate and not afraid to show his love. I can keep going on, but I think you get the jist.
Very good, yeah thanks I can work with this 😊
Glad to hear:)
I hear you. I also see this mentality among the more mature women that typically date. However within this same thread a woman commented on how she doesn't like the caring, soft nature of the Nice guy. Granted, the other majority commented on their preference for nice guys, but now I ask you this question; is it the nice guy's fault for having the sentimental personality, or women that look for security over sensitivity?
Its not abouy fault. But when it comes to a man, he has to be masculine. If a man has femininine qualities, it is always going to be a turn off to a girl.
That would explain why a lot of distress happens for teenage dating. Things are still being define, and maturing. I see.
I appreciate the opinion man. I've been on both sides of the fence on this question so i wanted to approach it from a neutral stand point. What are some reasons you feel nice guys shy away from girls? Aside from obvious things like assumed lack of confidence.
fear of rejection and also fear of making an idiot out of themselves. fear of being successful meaning that he gets her number and doesn't know what to do afterwards. basically shy guys are over thinkers. we think too much for our own good and basically cockblock ourselves and also talk down to our selves which goes back to lack of confidence.
Makes a whole lotta sense. I feel with all that thinking it explains why, once they've retained the relationship perform so well.
yeah extremely good boyfriends but kinda simps as well which is why they often get cheated on. gota have a balance. im trying ot get the beta male mentality out of me
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This seems a tad bit vague. But its a conversation starter. Not to mention the neutrality of the argument. I asked everyone, with their shared unique experiences to define the cliche argument of " bad guy vs good guy ", but in my environment I've damn near seen it all, and the multitude of combinations between nice guys/girls, vs bad guys/girls. However, it becomes a discussion when I ask what goes through a woman's mind when making the selection between the two. Especially when i specify in particular situations such as dating or flirting, etc. The go to unanimous answer is courage. But simultaneously, women actually prefer nice guys. Just nice guys that have the courage.
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