A year and a half ago I started dating my boyfriend, he was about to turn 24 , and I was 16.5! I know the age difference was crazy for both of us at the beginning and I didn’t think our relation ship would be so serious.
Around half a year after we were dating I decided to tell my parents, I was and still am a very good daughter (as much as it sounds cocky -it’s true), they made it very clear to me that they wanted us to split up- they most definitely did not approve of our relationship. Here is the only problem- I was in love. We had the most amazing relationship , he was so kind, he treated me so nicely and polite, and I always loved having him as company.
After the conversation I had with my parents I decided to break up with him. 3 weeks passed by and I was very sad.. my parents made me break up with him and I did not feel them support me through out the break up , so I got back together him. I understood my moms and dads concerns, but they were very closed off, they didn’t even want to meet him and see what he was like..
so we got back together without my parents knowing.. secretly dating for another 6 months. Until my mom figured it out. She was very very upset, and I was pretty upset at me too.. I love my mom , and I also love him. Why should I choose between?
She made me end it with him again. When I told him the news we both smiled at each other as if we knew that it’s too hard to pull us apart, we love each other, I’ve met his family, they are great people.
So noa we are still dating happily.
I feel torn between my parents and him.
Just saying- in my country our relationship IS legal. This may I’m 18 and this January he's turning 25.
What should I do about my parents? I’m lost. Any advice will help, thanks so much.
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I was in almost this exact situation not that long ago. Since then I came to a serious realization. Being in love is not a good enough foundation for a relationship. The whole psychological aspect of being in love is an effect that lasts 18 months at most. When it wears off... you will begin to see all his flaws. There are few, nearly no relationships founded on a "being in love" that truly end well. Not that it can't be done... but it is a VERY risky relationship.