So it’s a deal breaker if you guys are the same height?
How tall are you?
Yes if we are same height, because once I put any kind of lifting shoe I will be noticeably taller. Im 5'10 😭
What if the guy was 5’7-5’9! And didn’t care about the heels or even preferred it? Still a deal breaker or would you make an exception?
5'7 yes. 5'9-6'0 not a deal breaker. Honestly he will break the deal with me ha ha Im a mean looking girl
Would 5’8 be a deal breaker?
5'9 at the least
What if he prefers tall girls and he’s 5’8. Would that make a difference or still a deal breaker?
5'8 is kinda hard to decipher from 5'9 just looking lol he could very well be 5'8 and Id think he's 5'9 unless he told me. I wouldn't turn him down for an inch, but if a 6'2 guy asked me at the same time, Id pick the 6'2 guy truthfully.
What if the 5’8 guy was better looking and in better shape?
If the taller guy isn't attractive, then yes short guy. If tall guy is decently attractive with an average shape, his height still gives him an edge over the shorter guy.Now if the short guy is just amazing then Id date him over the taller guy.
What if you though he was 5’8 but he was actually 5’7 and he just wore heel lifts? Would you break up with him if you were already dating and you didn’t find out until later?
Lol these scenarios...Well I would def catch on before we dated how high his shoes were. I could tell he was shorter so no I would not date him.You have to understand, for some tall women it makes us feel less feminine if he is shorter, nothing personal. Likewise, most men prefer a shorter girl, so we have just as hard a time as short men
There are plenty of smaller girls though that would prefer shorter guys.
What if he was the same height or an inch shorter?
I'd have to really like him. So it's not out of the question, just unlikely.
How tall are you? And would you wear heels?
I'm 5.9" and if he was my height I wouldn't feel comfortable wearing heels. I have to stick with tall guys I'm afraid as I don't feel very feminine otherwise and that's something I enjoy.
What if he was 5’7, prefers taller girls, and totally comfortable with you wearing heels and wanted you to wear them? Deal breaker or would you make an exception?
I don't think I could, I myself wouldn't feel comfortable being taller than him, even if he didn't mind I would.
Wait are you 5’9 with or without heels?
I’m 5’7-5’8 and I would date a girl that’s 5’9 and let her wear heels! It would be really cool actually!
Like what if he actually wanted you to be taller?
5.8 1/2" without. Almost an extra inch with practically any shoe.
So if he’s 5’7.5 and he wants you to wear heels, that’s a deal breaker?
I still don't think I could. It's to do with the way I personally feel about being taller than my man, to me it just doesn't feel natural for reasons I already mentioned.
Yeah for me personally it's pretty much a deal breaker (there are other women who would disagree though.
But if it was an inch difference it’s not noticeable and he actually likes it! What if he wore heel lifts so he would be the same height or taller, you would never know the difference. If you were dating a guy you thought was taller and then you found out he was shorter, would you break up with him over that?
I don't think it's that black and white. My feelings for someone determines most things and I can't force attraction, it's not about wanting to, it's either there or it's not, and for me he has to be taller for me to feel that.
Could he be the same height?
All I want is to be able to date girls up to 5’9! You’re killing me!
I don't represent all women. I'm sure others would.
But it just bothers me that there are women 5’9 that wouldn’t be able to date guys 5’7. I really like tall girls and 2 inches is not much of a difference. I wish I was taller! It would just feel great if girls wouldn’t mind so then I don’t feel like being short is a big deal! I don’t see why tall girls wouldn’t feel the same way, if a shorter guy hit on her she should feel like being tall doesn’t matter. It just bugs me so much that I missed the cutoff by 2 inches!
Yeah I see your point. There will be girls that don't mind though so it's not a definite no for you. How come shorter gorls don't appeal to you?
It’s not that shorter girls don’t appear to me, i just am really into tall girls a lot more! I have no problem dating a girl 6 inches shorter than me, probably not shorter than that though. I just prefer to see girls at eye level, I think it’s so much more attractive. Plus I like long legs, and I don’t want my kids to be short so I figure if I had kids with a girl my height they could be tall. But the majority of girls from 5’5-5’9, do you think they would date a guy that’s 5’7?
Majority probably not, minority possibly yes.
Also there's no guarantee that just because your partner is tall your kids will also be tall, it increases the ratios for tall genes but there's certainly no guarantee as it's still chance at play.
Also I like a girl my height because I would like the idea of seeing her as my equal counterpart, and sex would be amazing with a girl my size.
Do you have siblings that are taller?
See that’s what bothers me is most girls would have a problem dating a guy my height and only a handful wouldn’t. Guys literally don’t care about height at all, except for a handful. I wish girls would think more like guys.
I don't think you need a girl of the same size to see her as equal per sue, unless you mean more physically.
It's ingrained as a natural instinct in many of us, it's not really a conscious choice that can be controlled, more of a subconcious natural preference.
Just like many women wish men could enjoy the need for loyalty and commitment I suppose lol
Yes I want to see a girl as my physically equal counterpart! And what do my siblings have to do with anything?
Why do you say it’s ingrained as a natural instinct? I think it’s our culture that does it honestly
Because if any of your siblings are tall there's still a chance you can pass that into your own kids. Our culture, how? I can tell you as a woman it's a natural instinct that I'm automatically attracted to taller men!
When I was younger I only looked at short girls because I always thought that’s what I was supposed to like. Then I met some girls around my height that were pretty hot just a few years ago and ever since then that has been my preference, so I think the right situation can change your whole viewpoint and preferences.
And yes there are some tall genes in my family
Well good luck with it, I hope you meet your tall girl. I still disagree with it not being naturally ingrained though, it's literally something I can't help. I'm pretty sure almost every woman would choose a tall man given the choice of both, but that's not to say it's the only deciding factor, many will sacrifice height preference for other qualities they place more value in personal to them.
If it’s naturally ingrained then why don’t guys care about height? Because they aren’t conditioned to think that way unlike girls
It’s just the normalcy bias since guys are taller than girls on average people think it has to be that way, but if girls were naturally taller than guys we would think nothing of it
I didn't say it was naturally ingrained in men, although most prefer women slightly shorter than them, women generally prefer a slightly bigger difference in height. Women aren't conditioned to think like it either? i completely disagree with you, I don't think it's something many people give that much thought to, it's just more of a natural selection.
I don’t know why women don’t like to be tall, like what is so bad about that? I just think it would be cool for a change because it’s different, just really exotic, I would feel like I had something to brag about
Like I said I'm sure there are girls out there who would be happy to date a shorter man. My opinion is just one of many.
Yes you’re right. Problem is there aren’t enough tall girls to begin with, let alone ones that would date someone their height or shorter. And the ones that would be willing to do it probably wouldn’t be the most attractive ones, which fucking blows. I honestly think if short guys would approach tall girls they would warm up to the idea of dating shorter guys, but short guys almost never approach tall girls, and it’s not because they’re against the idea of it, it’s because they don’t think they stand a chance, which is bullshit!
I think for the most part that's right, not many tall girls are attracted to shorter men because most girls want to feel feminine next to their man. But there are always the exceptions to the rule so maybe you can set a new trend 😉
It's about options a lot of the time too, someone with more options is going to provide you with more competition. You might get lucky and come across one where you are thus best option.
Do you think I could ever change a girls mind if I really tried
It's a possibility, but you might only doing it by having other things to offer.
*do - sorry new phone
Well of course! I just think it’s ridiculous to reject someone solely because of their height, unless it was a huge height difference. You would think seeing someone at eye level would be attractive for most people. I just think it’s about getting used to the idea because it’s rare but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with it, I think it would be really cool if it was more accepted and became a trend. I think it could catch on and become normal in the next 10 years
I have to disagree personally but it's been an interesting debate 🙂
I just think girls should be open to the idea of it
Take a look at a survey I posted about if a girl can be taller. Follow my account and you can see the results!
If you were dating a guy you thought was taller but he was actually shorter and you found out later, would you break up with him?
That'd be impossible, my boyfriend is too tall to fake.
I mean if you thought he was an inch taller and he was actually an inch shorter?
It wouldn't bother me as it'd make little difference in our case. I'm just about taller than his shoulders lol
No I mean if you were dating a guy that you thought was 1 inch taller but he was actually 1 inch shorter, but you didn’t find out until you were already dating for several weeks, would you break up with him over that if you really liked him?
Would it be a deal breaker if she was 5’10-6’2?
Yes, but I'm very picky with girls.
Would you let her wear heels if she was the same height or taller?
I am 6'2' , Yeah if she wants to wear heels she can and if she is 6'2" and still wearing heels I will love it 😍
What if she’s 6’3?
That will be very nice 😀
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Would it be a deal breaker if she was 6’1-6’2?
i wouldn't like it if she was taller than me :/ but same height is fine.
So would 1 inch taller be a deal breaker?
Would you let her wear heels if she was the same height?
How tall are you? Would it be a deal breaker if he was the same height or an inch shorter? Do you wear heels?
I’m 5’0 feet. I don’t wear heels and I’ve dated someone a little shorter.
How tall are you? What about same height or 1-2 inches taller?
Would you let her wear heels?
I'm 5' 9 and a half without shoes. I'll take same height though.
So 5’10 is a deal breaker?
Nope. It's cool. I actually had a mad crush in college with a girl that was almost 6 tall.
Would you be ok with her wearing heels?
Of 6 inches heels than no.
What if she insisted on wearing them? Deal breaker?
What if you were dating her for a while and she never wore heels then one day she bought a pair and wanted to wear them all the time? Do you break up with her?
How tall are you? What about same height or 1-2 inches shorter? Is that a deal breaker?
I'm 5'2" so there will be no chance for a guy who's shorter than me.
5 foot 4 inches
Would you still wear heels if he was the same height or shorter?
Yes I would: but I don't wear heels too often anyways
How tall are you? Do you wear heels?
What if he was 1-2 inches shorter? Deal breaker or not?
Look I know you're young but you gotta stop worrying about the whole height thing. If that's you in your profile pic you've got a nice face and I'm sure plenty of girls would date you if you asked them out!
Tall ones too?
Yes but that's more rare, still possible though
I want one my height +\- 2 inches!
That's reasonable. For me I don't really think about height until I really start catching feelings and it could lead to something serious... my family can be judgmental and crack jokes esp my brother
I really don’t see why 1-2.5 inch difference would be a deal breaker if he didn’t mind her wearing heels
I like when I hug a guy my head is in his chest
So would it be a deal breaker if he was 1-2 inches shorter?
As long as we're not bumping heads I'm fine
Would you still wear heels?
Yes because I look great in them. I just hope he doesn't mind me clutching on to him as I stubble occasionally