Who do you guys think should pay on the first date?

I personally think that if a guy asks me on a date then he should pay because he asked me. I also think that both parties should discuss who's going to pay before the date (so that it isn't a problem) or come up with a mutual agree like one person can pay for diner and the other person can pay for the movie or like someone can pay for the movie tickets and the other person can buy the snacks.
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  • You don't split nothing unless it's a Sadie Hawkins dance or something like that. If a guy wants to take you out on a date and asks you, then he should be full on ready to foot the entire bill based on his decision of places to go. But girls unless you are just friends or want to keep things on a friendly level then let that guy pick it up. Now every once in awhile if you want to do something nice for you guy then sure you foot the bill. Now if you are the one asking him out then maybe it's not a bad idea for you to foot the bill that one time, and if he's any kind of a gentleman he wouldn't let you pay anyways

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  • On a first date going 50/50 or a compromise of sorts is definitely the way to go. Even the gesture of offering or a token that you are not expecting to be handed everything in a potential relationship speaks volumes.

    If you enjoyed the date, and you went out to dinner and the guy pays, offer to go someplace for dessert and the girl pays for that. Or your movie idea works well too.

    If the date went badly... well that’s another story but I’d still want to pay my share so there isn’t a sense of obligation or guilt.

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What Guys Said 33

  • Maybe I'm old fashioned, but the only scenario I can envision in which I'd let her pay is if she asked me out AND makes a lot more money than me. Even then, I'd make an effort to pay.

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  • For me, it'd be the guy pays for the first date then it can go wherever from there, if they want to split it 50/50 from then on aight, if they switch it so girl pays for the next date that's fine too. Hate it though when girls think the guy should pay for every. single. date. til the day they break-up and never contribute.

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  • "if a guy asks me on a date then he should pay because he asked me"

    Oh, so you are "going on a date" (whatever it even means) with him, because he asked you, hmm? An escort in the making :D

    I don't mind paying, the women I date almost always insist on paying for their own stuff. That said, I still don't get the wine'n'dine & movie, it's almost like a horrible cliché.

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  • I've had 3 gfs, countless hook ups and at least 100 Tinder dates and I've spent a grand total of $5 on a girl's coffee and only because I was late and felt bad.

    I believe in the 50/50 rule and only because being used for free food is rampant on online dating apps. Also most REAL LIFE women (and not G@G women) actually prefer to pay their own on the first date. I have no problem being generous though

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    • Actually I guess the G@G stats kinda confirm my point haha

    • Think of doing something that doesn't involve eating or staring at a huge screen in a dark room :)

  • The guy should be ready to flip the bill, but the girl should offer to pay half. They can work it out from there. If she doesn't plan on a date #2, she def should pay half.

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  • Let’s hope that one of you bring money and not assume the other is paying. Do either of you mind doing the dishes?

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  • Why do people make a huge deal on €100 or less? Just pay, I'm not about to discuss who will pay for the meal.

    I wouldn't pay though if it was someone I didn't know like from online dating unless I like them but since I don't do online I got nothing to worry about.

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  • Whoever invites you to the date pays, but if you both agree to go somewhere then split it 50/50.

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  • I pay on dates, but if she doesn't at least reach for her wallet, it's the last date. Don't care if we hit it off or not. Hard rule and a time saver.

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  • I pay for all of the dates... Until we're living together. Now some guys ain't going to like this but, this is only because I can... I think when two 18 year olds go out they should go Dutch unless one is working then maybe that one pays.

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What Girls Said 20

  • The guy! I always offer to split it! However, If a guy doesn't pay on the first or second date, that's fine, I'll split it, but there won't be a second date. It's happened multiple times and then guys wonder why I won't go on date two. My current boyfriend paid for the first two dates, even after I offered to split it. He was a keeper! I insisted on paying for date 3!

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    • I meant there won't be a second or third date!

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    • Haha no! But because someone doesn't pay on the first date, I decide not to date them. They come off as cheap and it seems more like two friends hanging out as opposed to a romantic date if the bill is split. It's a turn off for me!

    • I just can't date cheap men! My ex was so cheap that when he knew he was paying, he would order water but he knew I was paying or he wanted me to pay, he always ordered a drink. And things were so awkward when the bill came. My current boyfriend always assumes he's paying, but I insist and try to make it even.

  • Personally I think whoever asks should, that just seems appropriate or at least split if both are insisting. Most of the time the guys asks the girl out so it just works that way. But thats how I see it. I've always been paid for on the first date and each time I am surprised and make sure it's okay if they need help because I am more then happy. But yes either way really.

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  • To be so calculative, I feel that you are not that into him.
    Although it is good to be fair to both party, it is impossible to be so
    detailed in expenditure. How can you enjoy each other company when 'who pays for what' is constantly at the back of your mind? These things will flow naturally if both parties are genuinely on the same page (in love).

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  • I'm still a bit old school and want the guy to pay. But only the first thing if you only go to a restaurant it's fine but if you're going to the cinema too then you should pay that one. If I let the guy pay for everything I'd feel bad for him

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  • I feel the guy should pay on the first date if he asked you out. I guess if you asked him out then you don't believe in the traditional idea of waiting for a guy to ask then you should also believe a girl can pay if she asks. I also feel either way it goes, the other party should at least offer to split the bill.

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  • I'd say pay for your own food or go dutch on the first date.

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  • I think the right thing to do is split the bill. However , I think it’s a nice gesture when the guy decides to pay the FIRST time.

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  • It depends. If one of them claims the bill, they should pay it. If neither claim it, split it.

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  • The male should always pay for dates. It's tradition. You are not a lady to him if you have to pay for dates.

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  • I don't have any problem paying the bill.. unless the guy doesn't make a big deal out of it

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