I think that language would be fine as the relationship develops, it'd feel safe. And anything physical is something that I can only see myself doing after months and months.
To be honest I would like it if potential dates just focused on me as a person.
I can't say all that up front, but I want to attract attention from guys who are compatible with going super slow and over time becoming a best friend I can make out with
I'd prefer especially to get feedback from people my age, but I'm new here and I don't know what the demographic is
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Well that is rather difficult but those who portray in a way you don't like you can easily blow off.
I think you can be pretty straight about it. If I called you sexy and you didn't like it (I never call a girl sexy unless I know her well) you could say that you prefer if I don't call you that because of past experiences but that you would like if I called you gorgeous or something. Like don't leave it with just saying you don't like it but open up other opportunities for him to compliment you. Or you can always say that you appreciate the compliment but that you prefer other words because of past traumas.
There is not really an easy way.
There are guys who will like to go slow. Me for example because I also had a relationship which made me feel unable to be with a woman again because our relationship ended very tragically.
I for example can't have sex with anyone now and I need time for it to feel okay as well.1