Thats rough man! Hopefully she will realize her mistake soon and try to work things out with you! The only problem is that if she doesn't know what she wants, then whatever you do won't be good enough. And thats no fair to you!
She said love our conversations, late night talks, hold conversation, everything. she also said she can see me being apart of her future, see us being in a relationship one day, just not now. She don't think it'll happen now. She said not testing me or playing with my brain, she really don't want a relationship. She said can't handle a relationship, deserve one, but she wants one but not now. Then she said can't mess up now, she refuse to break my heart... especially now..I didn't message her for 1 day then she end message me again before i can reply to her. So do she still wants me here with her in 2018? or should stay with her but not waiting for her to change her mind, I feel we deserve each other we both been had rough past relationship and got heartbroken, both want same future in relationship, honesty and loyalty.
As tough as it is to hear, I think that you're setting yourself up for heartache my man. Be there for her, support her, but ultimately she has to figure out what she wants before your relationship will ever work out. She clearly doesn't know what she wants, and you should give her the space to figure it out
Appreciate thanks man. So, just be here for her like as friend or bestfriend? to give her support and be there for her when she reach out to me. Honestly, I do love her but I'm not hurt, been like waiting to see what exactly she wants. I been going at her pace letting things fall naturally, because we found each other naturally. I told her last Saturday didn't won't to waste her time if she feels i'm not the right man for her. I also enjoy our conversations, everything. She has help me with my Spanish speaking much more. I don't know if has to do with because she's very attractive so like some guys wants her, so maybe she want to play the field. But I'm not going be a doormat. by the way she know wants a relationship with her and want her, but she lives in another city.
That's tough. A long distance relationship is very hard. But be there as a friend. Dont push too hard, but let her know that you're available as more than a friend too.
Yeah she not used to dating guy from different city, and okay. I'm be that friend for her, but being me.
Well that's a tough one! You could always make a joke about kissing for new years, and see how she reacts. Personally, I've had friendships blossom into relationships that I never expected.
I would 100% do that because that's what I've done before. Plus she has kissed me a couple other times so I dont see why she wouldn't again. Only problem is our friendship is at an awkward stage right now. We were close friends then all of a sudden we stopped talking for no reason then we seem very distant now. We can't talk for more than 5 min and seeing each other in person is awkward. Kind of like seeing your ex or somehing.
Well it sounds like New Years could be a good opportunity to fix that relationship! Try to spend it with her, or around her. Just try not to go in expecting too much... Just let things happen if they happen.
No, I agree with you but the problem is SHE HAS PLANS ALREADY! Im kinda screwed on this one. Might text her now and see if we can hang out.
Haha maybe wait until morning. Don t wanna seem too desperate, ya know?
yea, well she kinda sleeps late so I texted her around 12:30am and will just wait for a reply in the morning I guess. If I can't hang out with her to get stuff situated oh well, if it goes well and we do hang out its a plus.
That's right. Plan for the best, prepare for the worst. :P
Yuup, then I also assume shit is going to hit the fan instead of getting my hopes up because if things don't come out how I expected I'm not as disappointed if that makes sense lol.
Haha makes sense. I just aim for the middle of the road. Not too good, not too bad. Cause shit happens
nope, im totally with you dude. Like am i fine being single? yea its chill, but i wouldn't mind being in a relationship.
I hear ya. Its tough sometimes though. I don't know your relationship with this girl, but if its something you really want, then go for it. If you're wanting to push it just because you're lonely or something, then stop. Because you don't want to ruin a perfectly good friendship for selfish reasons
Thats fair! I feel like that is the best way to be. Comfortable being single, but open to a relationship if it comes along!
Yeah, exactly! I mean, I've never been one to crave a romantic relationship, yet other people say they NEED to be in a relationship and hate being single. I mean, like you said, if someone comes along then great! But I'm not one to go searching high and low until I have a boyfriend; it'll all happen when it's meant to :)
Fair enough! I'm not exactly a fan of the whole "its mean to be" thing, but everyone is free to have their own opinions! Whatever makes you happy!
Yeah, fair enough. Just that sometimes if you look for something too hard, other things can go by without you noticing. If that makes sense? Missed opportunities and all that. But no, being single is fine; if someone comes along then great!
That makes a lot of sense! And I agree with you. You're a wise woman
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Haha almost the same I suppose! I'm sure New Years is just as good, regardless of the midnight kiss or not.
Just have a few drinks and have a good time!
Thats right! Celebrate the year that passed and prepare for the next one!
A "bae"? Well, good for you kid. :) Hopefully you have a wicked New Years with her/him/whoever :)
You're sounding a little bit jaded my friend! But the right relationship will come along sometime and you won't even be expecting it
No it won't.
Well there ya go! You're already not expecting it ;)
I think you fail to realize that I am unreceptive to a relationship. I don't have anyone in my life that could fill a role like that and it's highly unlikely to change. False hope is a good way to waste my time.
Its very short sighted to say that its highly unlikely to change. You have absolutely no idea who will enter your life and at what time. Your opinion can change as easily as the weather. Nothing is forever. Just let things happen as they will.. Closing yourself off from experiences will not improve your life. Just sayin'
I've been single and incel the majority of my life. It isn't going to change anytime soon. Life has proven that to me.
Keep your chin up my friend. Life always throws a curve ball. Death and taxes are the only guarantees ;)
Thats good! As long as you're happy, that's what matters
Thats a good attitude! Whatever makes you happy right?
Haha yes, absolutely. I like how exciting things are.
That's a wonderful attitude! Life is exciting, that's for sure. Got any big plans for New Years?
The usual gathering, and uhm some private rituals to welcome all the things coming way. Haha
Haha you've piqued my curiosity!
Haha oh my, it's not how it sounds like. I'm just extra happy because the full moon is also happening, on my birth star 🌟 haha I'll stop talking now.
You dont have to, I actually find that an interesting subject. I just don't know a lot about birth stars and such. I am excited for the full moon though!
You should be! The constellation is about renewal, coming back, feeling good again where you once lost it. Its perfect timing =)
Sounds like a good fit for New Years then! I'm a little more excited now haha thank you!
It is! I couldn't ask for anything better. Haha You're welcome! I'll send some good wishes your way
That's very kind of you! You seem like a very nice person.
Haha thanks! You sound like a good person, too. And helpful insights. So thank you.
Oh anytime! I'm not sure if you can tell, but I like to talk. Haha so feel free to message me whenever you feel like chatting. Its always fun getting to know new people
Well, in my opinion, spending time now to get to know yourself and finding out what you want from a relationship will vastly improve a relationship when it eventually comes along. And a good indication of an unhealthy relationship is being stressed out about it. Hopefully you have a good new years by yourself and you'll start next year out in a better position :)
Any time my man!
Well that's a good point. But its not always the case where you're the reason. Sometimes its not by choice. Hence the question. Lol
Well as long as you're happy in your own skin right? No one should need another person to make them feel good!
Well I'm glad it doesn't bug you too much!
☺ Good luck who knows u find someone soon 👍
Thanks :) I'm sure I will!
She's out there somewhere my man! I guarantee it
hopefully. thanks man
Of course! Anytime
Well hopefully you can still have a wicked night! Being single isn't the end of the world, though it feels like that sometimes
I totally have awesome night with my friends
Thats all that matters!
Well just spend the night with some friends and see what happens!
That's what I'm planning on!
There ya go! Life is good 👍
Well that's good man!
I’ve saved so much being single
Haha that's very true. Its a perk for sure
Well I feel your pain. But I'm still going to try and have a good night :)
Good for you, man. Show the world you don't need a woman when you be got the internet. Haha. Just kidding. But it's good that you're happy.
I try to be! There are definitely some nights that are tougher than others, but what can you do. There's always a bright side
I envy your optimism. I'm glad someone sees things that way at least.
Everyone should! Life sucks when you always look at the bad things :(
Hard not to look at the bad things when they're so big and scary.
Haha I think you'll find that, upon closer examination, the big and scary things usually end up being just a bit misunderstood
Nah, I think Kim jong un is just a giant douche.
Not that I'm scared of him. But people should be. At least in America.
Well he's not a GIANT douche. More like a midget douche
Well New Years will be a good time anyways right! Its party time
Yeah i guess. Time to make out with a random chick and wake up feeling awkward.
That's the goal of New Years
That's cool! You enjoy the single life eh?
I doubt that! There's somebody for everybody
Got Any big plans at least? Or some thing more low-key
A nice chill time at home can be just as good. :)
Join the club man. Haha
Huhh why because they own shit😒
Didn't need a bitch.😝