Lately this guy I thought was really cute seemed to be really into me and I just felt defensive and stopped wanting to be around him.
Why am i like this!!! I can't help it
Most Helpful Guy
And this is the type of shit that kills all the fun in liking someone. So now I no longer date and avoid women. Inevitably you’ll step on hearts and really hurt people. After a few of these women, you stop wanting to be hurt. So now I will live my life alone.
Good job ladies. Don’t bother to get your shit together so we can all wind up feeling like shit at the end of the day.
Most Helpful Girl
Nothing. You just don't really know what you want and need to do. I understand how you feel because it's like a tug of war with yourself. Your overall being led by emotions of strong attraction. And you may like that feeling or not. But at the same time, your not OPEN to a relationship right now in your life. And you're torn because you want the experience, but at the same time, you may be AFRAID of the experience. Or, you don't necessarily look at it as an experience. But something to cherish and it shouldn't be fleeting. And you hate yourself for it. You have a conflict of the heart vs. mind, body vs. spirit.
You don't know these guys. Your only looking at the physical, and they're doing the same to you. In a way, it is both a good thing and a bad thing. It's a good thing because you're not allowing that lustful ways and behaviors they display control or dictate what you secretly know is right for you. But at the same time, its bad, because if you found somebody whose genuine, your conditioning yourself to reject anybody who comes your way. If you don't want a relationship sincerely, then all you can do is handle this healthier. But if you do, then you need to figure out what are your fears and insecurities that are holding you back from forming a potentially good relationship. I know my reasons, but now you have to know yours. And it starts by asking yourself the right questions. By knowing yourself.
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